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  • Why do I feel like this... 10 points for best answer?

    Singles & Dating - 5 hours ago

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    I already asked this question in mental health section, but i didn't get the respond I need so i posted here in this section 'cause I so in need for a good answer... Few days ago my sweet boyfriend (he's the first man in my life) that I love and trust blindly hurt me when we were talking about his book that going to be published soon and he admitted that used his writing talent from the start to make me love him only because I’ve never been touched by any man before and never been in love so he wanted to be the first and he said it exactly like this: " I wanted to make love to you because I knew if I would be the first man inside you that there would never be another man to ever get your love" I haven't showed him and sign of pain or anger or anything, I pretended everything is good and I’m ok with what he said but I spent two days crying and feeling so much pain and lonely thinking about the big fake fairy tale I was living. And then things wont worst yesterday when some guy I used to like very much called me after long time never heard from him, I thought everything going to be great with his call and he can make me feel better after my big disappointed with my bf. But the shock was that he didn’t even recognize me and said he only called because he found my number in his cell phone so he called to know whose number is this. I felt it right in my stomach like a stab that deep pain but I swallowed my tears and said like it doesn't matter who am I then hanged up the phone. I felt like crying but couldn’t drop a tear maybe one hour later I dropped some tears then nothing just went to the kitchen and have a late dinner which I don’t usually then went to bed… And when I woke up this morning I started to have this weird feelings or better say I have no feelings at all... I felt like nothing happened at all in the past few days I am not happy or even sad nothing at all. My mother yelled at me and insulted me because of something I told and didn't feel bad for it and didn't even got bothered with her words. And I watched this poor sick child with cancer on the TV and it was normal to me I didn’t felt pain for him. I tried to do my exercise but I couldn’t and thought like: what for? I tried to listen to some music but couldn’t feel the rhythm, I tried to pray but I couldn’t reach to the spiritual level in the prays and also tried to write about my failure relationship and some poetries but felt like there’s nothing to write about. I truly don’t know what’s wrong with me! Even when I am writing these words I don't feel like real worry I don’t' know how to describe it exactly but I only wonder why am I like this and how did I reach this level. So please would any body tell me what’s really going with me? Anything would help really. Most appreciated
  • What kind of face book friend do u like? i need friends to improve my English knowledge add me?

    Friends - 6 hours ago

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    What kind of face book friend do u like? i need friends to improve my English knowledge add me? i`m wimukthi ...20 year old boy from sri lanka.i like to have more fb friends all around the world .. i l`like english people,franch,german,australian,canadion… kivis(new zealand),south african,philippin,italion,..............… please add if u know english well ,i need friends to improve my english knowledge..... if u think i`m a good friend 4 u please add me a request..please search me----wimukthi vivechaka herath or http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100000091101546#/wimukthi.v.herath?ref=profile
  • Is this ok revenge for my bf? What to do?!?

    Friends - 7 hours ago

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    Today i missed my flight and had to spend $150 for a ticket tmrw. It was absolutely my bf's fault I missed it. He knows it. Earlier today I splurged on sexy lingerie and outfits to wear for him. I have to return it bc now I can't afford it(since I had to spend $150+ on the ticket). Should I take a pic of it on--not showing my face--and send it to him saying "u caused urself to miss out on this..." I'm really upset I'm out like $170 bucks(now can't pay my electric bill) bc my bf wanted to have sex before taking me to the airport. Once I saw the time I was anxious and not enjoying it but he had to be selfish & come....ugh I'm sooooooooo mad at him n feel like he should pay me the $150 how can I get back at him?
  • Fiancee is turning into a major pain?!?

    Other - Family & Relationships - 8 hours ago

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    Okay so I'm in my third year of med school while my fiancee has started her residency already. When we got together I made it clear to her that I wont be able to give her a lot of attention while I'm attending med school since this is extremely important to me and my family. She keeps complaining about me never taking her out and studying all the time, when she was the same way while attending med school! She really should be focusing on her residency a lot more than she is too. Not to mention I have to work part time and study a lot, since my field tends to be a little competitive. I think she may also be a little jealous I scored way above her on the USMLE step 1's, since she hasn't been the same ever since she saw my score. What should I do?
  • My friend is scared for me. It scares me that I've gotten to this point. Long but please read. Help?

    Friends - 8 hours ago

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    I'm depressed, I've been cutting, I hate my self, and I want to die well more of kill myself. I was in one-on-one therapy for a week but I cut myself again and had to go to the ER and they sent me to the Insitute of Living for the night and was there all last Tuesday and had one-on-one therapy on Wednesday. They set me up with group therapy. Yesturday, I had to go in the morning for like don't know how to put this into words but like introduction pretty much. I then had a horrible day at school included with crying a lot a lunch because I'm pretty sure I'm going to have to quit swim team and band (I'm a section leader in band and I worked hard for my position) and my best friend Alex comes over to sit and he says, 'Am I the only one not depressed here' I looked up and told him to shut up and he comes over to my side of the table and hugs me and talks to me about it, trying to make me feel better. So then on the bus, I get a text from my ex friend saying 'I Heard wat happened and i just wanted 2 say im srry' and I asked her who told her and she said Alex and when I asked Alex why he told her he said 'I told nikki cuz im scared for u... I dont want u to get even more messed up... And im bad at talking ppl out of stuff... Nikkis good at it... Terrance says hi.' And it just really freaked me out because a bunch of people are worried about me and I'm used to that but he's my best friend and he's SCARED for me. And this morning going to encore I passed him in the hallway and he asked if I was okay and I turned and shook my head no and he came up and hugged me and I just don't know what to do he's just so close to me that it hurts. And last week we had a friend in the Insitute of Living because she was planning suicide, so I'm pretty sure he also doesn't want me to end up at that point. But, he doesn't know that I know how I would kill my self I only talked about that this morning with Justin. And I haven't told Alex how hard it is just to get through the days now, and I just find everything so pointless, and that I'm just sick of being around. He does know that I wanted to switch schools. And I'm just so scared in myself because I've gotten to the point that he's scared for me. And I just don't know what to do.
  • Should I give this guy a chance or is he just playing me?

    Singles & Dating - 8 hours ago

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    I met this guy through a friend. He lives in a different state and we email back and forth on facebook. It was his turn to email me but he never emailed me back. Before then, we email each other frequently like every three days. Two weeks go by without an email. He ended up 'liking' what I said on my facebook status a few weeks after I never heard from him. So I assumed he still wants to communicate with me so I emailed him again. Its been one week and then I hear from him again. It wouldn't matter but he updates his facebook through his phone and doesn't email me back when I clearly want a response from him. I enjoy getting emails from him. He recently emailed me back and said he was busy with work. He ended up asking me if I'm dating anyone. I told him that I was not dating anyone. Its been one week and he updates his facebook but doesn't email me back on facebook. I mention to him that there were pics of me and some American Idol contestants on tour on my facebook. I got a pic with one singer that I have a crush on and he's cute too. Do you think he got jealous? Why would he ask me if I'm dating anyone and stop communicating with me at the same time? Do you think he is dating anyone and wanted me to ask him if he is dating anyone?
  • A Question For ALL The Women Out There ?

    Singles & Dating - 9 hours ago

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    If I asked her for a date today..and she said yes..but she has a friend with benefit..should I worry if her and I get closer? Or will her feelings for him fade and her like me more if we get along great?
  • All that matters .........?

    Singles & Dating - 9 hours ago

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    If I asked her for a date today..and she said yes..but she has a friend with benefit..should I worry if her and I get closer? Or will her feelings for him fade and her like me more if we get along great? I'm not letting it phase me because we arent together and have only known eachother for 8 days. I want things to get serious with her and I first.
  • My ex threatened to files charges against me with my human resources department?

    Singles & Dating - 9 hours ago

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    I dated her for 8 months and I broke the relationship up several months ago. She was fine with it and never came after me and didn't make a big deal at all at work. (We work in the same company, but in diff building, so we dont work together). I tried to be friends and would show up to say hi every so often. I'd ask her for lunch, but she declined. She never really reciprocated and once I asked for lunch again...she finally said no and asked for me to stop. She told me she had found emails that I had sent to my ex during the relationsh (true) and had no interest in pursuing any kind of relationship with me. She threatened to go to the human resources department if I insisted. I think i made the situation worse by trying to be nice. Am I missing something?
  • Does this girl like me?

    Singles & Dating - 9 hours ago

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    We text every day and she gives me hugs quite often nowadays. We will talk for hours on facebook or texting. Sometimes our conversations get really deep. We goes iceskating with me too. Today however she said we should hang out sometime. I do like her but I like my date to semi more. They both like me but does the girl I described like me as more than a friend? Help!
From the Garden Shed

Perennial plants for golfers. My guide to a great low-maintenance garden

Posted Thu, May 21, 2009
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Before I get to the 'meat' of this blog - perennial plants that you should look for when shopping this weekend, I have to say something about our British gardening friends... who else, after all, would describe home vegetable growing as 'thrilling' and the flowering of perennial favourites as 'great entertainment'. And yet, the current issue of The Garden magazine, which is the official publication of the Royal Horticultural Society, does precisely that.

To look at a beet, freshly pulled from the raw earth and ready for the pot, and describe it as 'thrilling' is a bit of a stretch for us Canadian gardeners (except on the Prairies where enthusiasm for vegetable growing is reaching an all time high: and it WAS pretty high to begin with).

To witness the slow development of a peony as it erupts out of the soil in early May only to develop 'eye balls' for buds that eventually swell into perfectly round candy floss flowers later in the month as 'great entertainment'? One might think the British have lost their marbles. If that is the case I would say that they lost them a long time ago.

Truth is, Canadian gardeners have a long way to go before we can say that we enjoy our gardens with the same enthusiasm as our British brethren. Maybe that is true for all of 'garden' humanity - as no nation has such a finely developed passion for gardening than the British do.

On that note, I have some advice for you: whatever your gardening circumstances, be sure to look for the 'winners' that can make your garden the most satisfying ever, this spring.

Where people are concerned I look at the world as being made up of two primary groups: golfers and gardeners.
Golfers enjoy gardens. Well, at least they like looking at them. But they generally have little time for the tedious nature of gardening 'work'. I like to think that they live with the seed of gardening-potential inside of them: they just need to mature a little before they can see the light.
Gardeners have learned that there are countless benefits to getting their knees dirty.
Golfers think that dirt is dirty.
Gardeners have the patience to wait for a plant to mature from seed or transplant into a flowering beauty, fulfilling it's potential over time.
Golfers enjoy the thrill of the moment - a great shot on perfect grass - that someone else grew. (Note: you may insert your own interpretation of 'golfer': sailor, sports nut or whatever...)

You get the idea.

Here I list some of my favourite 'plants for golfers'. These are easy to grow, require very little maintenance and are there for you when you are finished your game - like old friends. They will not let you down.

Shop for plants with the 'exposure' of your yard in mind:

Sun. If you have blazing hot sun to deal with for most of the season then I recommend that you look over many of the Echinacea perennial flowers. The original 'Echinacea purpurea' is not a bad place to start. A prairie native, here you have a very winter hardy purple flowering butterfly magnet that blooms for up to 5 weeks and when it is done blooming attracts a host of hungry song birds in search of the prodigious production of tasty seeds.

Echinacea (Mark Cullen)

For something completely different - but still in the Echinacea family - look for some of the recently introduced varieties that 'improve' on the flowering performance of the original. Echinacea 'Magnus' was the perennial plant of the year just a few years ago. It provides a dense shade of purple that fades to almost pink later in the season. A July/August show of colour is guaranteed in almost any region of the country providing you position it in the sun.

Rudebeckia may best be known as 'Black Eyed Susan'. Not sure that Susan approves, as who wants to be known best for a black eye: but there you have it. I think that Rudebeckia is a great plant no matter what you call it. Hardy to zone 5 (north Toronto/Halifax).

It thrives in well drained, compost rich soil, loves the sun and blooms longer than just about any flowering perennial that I can think of. Plant Rudebeckia now and you will surely enjoy a fabulous show of yellow colour in late summer and autumn. In fact, this could be the best investment that the cottager makes: an easy spring planting for an abundance of colour when you get home from the cottage. It is great as a cut flower too.

Look for another 'perennial plant of the year', Rudebeckia 'Goldsturm'.
It will grow and multiply for three years then needs to be dug up and replanted. Not unusual for a 'perennial' in our climate.

Rudebeckia 'Prairie Sun' is another winner: with its' intense gold centre and butter soft outer petals.

My short list of 'sun loving perennials' includes all of the sedum family - think 'Sedum spectabilis' and 'hens and chicks' - (sempervivum, another member of the extensive sedum family, if you are looking for groundcovers in the sun).

Shade. Okay, you expected me to say that Hosta is a great shade performer. With over 7,000 varieties in the family to choose from including the meter wide giants like Hosta 'Frances Williams' and Hosta 'Drinking Gourd' I would not want to disappoint you. Truth is, however, that hostas are best grown in partial shade. A few hours of dappled shade (i.e. sun!) improves their performance substantially.

In truly dense shade I recommend the much more aggressive 'lamium' family. This is a colourful groundcover that will grow in between evergreens and shrubs, providing a carpet of variegated foliage and (right now!) flower. Though, the flowers do not last very long, I have to admit. Hardy to zone 2 (Edmonton).

Another shade loving plant on my golfers list is pachysandra or Japanese Spurge. This is an evergreen ground cover -unusual eh? It flowers in late May/early June but I would not write home about that. Instead the redeeming features of this plant is it's ability to thrive in dry shade, multiply over 2 to 3 years and provide a carpet of green where most anything else would give up. Hardy to zone 5 (Southern Ontario/Nova Scotia/PEI).

Also on my list of dry-shade lovers are:
Lily of the valley (aggressive! But worth it in the right place). Hardy to zone 2 (long winters - Edmonton).
Epimediums. A large family of early spring blooming woodland plants. Hardy to zone 4.

And finally - think of the 'natives' that do so well under similar circumstances: Garden (Mark Cullen)Trilliums (zone 3), Canadian Ginger (zone 4), Jack in the Pulpit (zone 4) and Ladies Slipper (zone 3).

Next week: Annual plants for golfers.

Meantime, enjoy your passion - whether you are British or not - and keep your knees dirty.

Mark

ps. I had a great time in Halifax and Windsor Nova Scotia this past week. The Public Garden is still the best in the country - in my books!

 

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5 Comments

  • 1. Posted by mike on Fri, May 22, 2009

    Hi do you have any info on building an herd dryer thanks Mike

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  • 2. Posted by HilariousAquarius on Fri, May 22, 2009

    How do I know what zone I am in??

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  • 3. Posted by purpleraindr... on Fri, May 22, 2009

    I live in the Twilight zone.

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  • 4. Posted by purpleraindr... on Fri, May 22, 2009

    I live in the Twilight zone.

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  • 5. Posted by greenhouse12000 on Wed, May 27, 2009

    Hi Hil Aquarius! You can figure out what zone you are in by going to my website www.markcullen.com and looking it up on the internal search engine. Put in your city/nearest town. Thanks for reading! Mark

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