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  • Can guys explain this to me?

    Singles & Dating - 4 hours ago

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    Why do some guys, not all of course, feel threatened by a girl and see her as competition rather than someone he should care for and respect.Usually they are nice and respectful at first and some guys stay that way but some guys feel they have something to prove and start to play up. I get that girls do this too, but i'm interested in why there are some guys who do this. Is it a power struggle? If its a woman that they feel no control with? she threatens his ego in some way? I get that it depends on the type of women, soe can be loud brash and yell "I'm a strong woman!"- those women are usually weak and also have something to prove. I'm just talking about normal mature level headed girls.
  • Should I forgive my best friend?

    Friends - 5 hours ago

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    My best friend of twenty odd years decided to send me a email the other day commenting on my grammar and said that my English was very bad. I had made a comment about a person in a picture and she picked me up on it, saying how, it was only a simple grammar mistake but that I should improve my english. I took this very badly, and probably replied in haste with a few horrible comments, she then said she knew I would act this way, but what I cant understand is, if she knew I would act this way, why would she do or such a thing. She has apologised but when she does it doesn't seem very sincere because she then comes back with, I was doing you a favour by pointing out your english errors, Im sorry you feel this way but......etc etc. I ended up texting her and apologising , saying I probably overreacted but she then left my 16 hours to stew, thinking that it was all my fault...again what friend does this? Im seriously stressed and upset about the whole situation, we have been best friends for years and it came out of nowhere, do you think I should forgive her and move on or would you end the friendship?? I'd really appreciate your advice peeps .
  • Did she break up with me or was it me?

    Singles & Dating - 5 hours ago

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    A few weeks ago she asked whether I was happy with her and if I wanted to continue the realtionship given she felt I still liked my ex. Two weeks later I broke up with her saying that I didnt think there was any future for us. Not because of the ex, but because we were not the right match. She agreed. A few weeks after when I called her she asked that I stop contacting her because she had found the the emails I had sent to my ex during our relationship. I had written how much I loved my ex and thought of her and how little my current gf meant. I was definetly embarrased, but still dont think we belong together. My question really is....was it me or did she break up..or was it mutual?
  • How do I stop being sceptical about guys?

    Singles & Dating - 5 hours ago

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    I dumped my ex for being a sleaze. He was just into sex and was quite disrespectful so I dumped his ass pretty quickly. However there is this new guy who is everything I could want. He is reserved, intellectual, gorgeous well mannered refined and gentlemanly. He seems shy and stares at me a lot, his face lights up when we catch eyes and he holds my gaze and smiles at me. I really want to talk to him but part of me feels angry that he is showing me he thinks i'm attractive. because of my ex i'm wary of being seen as a sex object. I don't advertise myself as one i'm shy, dignified, quiet, bookish and dress modestly. How can I appreciate the fact that a guy actually seems to like me? I can assure you forlorn hope that it was only me who was mature. This guy was the biggest creep you could meet.
  • How do you know if your bf wants to kiss you?

    Singles & Dating - 7 hours ago

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    Me and my bf have been going out for about 2 and a half months. I think that's pretty good. I want to kiss him and im pretty sure that he wants to kiss me because I heard him say to my friend that the reason he came over by us on the playground is because his friend dared him to kiss me. my friend just gave the oh look to him. Please help! Some tips please and I don't want to have sex with him so please don't leave those comments. I just want a cheek kiss. I'm in 6th grade. :) He really lives me. Like what times would be good to cheek kiss at school?
  • Should I giver Her A Chance?

    Singles & Dating - 7 hours ago

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    its ben 3 years already, n i finally got an answer from the gurl i loved since those years. and her answer is idk. i try to talk with her on the fone but she ignores me most of the time. even if i tol her how i felt she still makes me feel like she doesnt want me. she usd to be so innocenet but since times past idk if shes the same one. anyways after i told her how i felt i suddenly changed how i fekt. like i dont even love her as i did.. now this girl asked me out two days ago and i said idk, should i give her the chance because she seems so nice and cute
  • Why does physical beauty matter so much? Is that what you think is going to make your relationship last?

    Singles & Dating - 7 hours ago

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    I have never really understood this. It has never mattered to me. So please explain: Why, when it makes no difference to the longevity or quality of your relationship, is physical appearance so important to so many people?
  • Why does she have sex all the time and shes only 13?

    Other - Family & Relationships - 7 hours ago

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    am 14 and i have this friend that is about 13 i knew her since like 4 years now and shes always been a nice helpfull person when we got to our secondary school at the end of year seven she started having fights at school and at the start of year 9 she told me she had sex with this random person and now she does it all the time. Yesterday i spoke to her and she was like ohh you know that guy from our year i had it with him. So all im wondering about is why does she do it and does she think it makes her seem cooler ?? Its maybe because she lives in a bad area or that she has 16 brothers and sisters and she is trying to have her own life without them i dont know what to think ???
  • Is it appropriate for friends with benefits to discuss their other sex partners?

    Singles & Dating - 8 hours ago

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    I once had a fwb setup a while back. The guy was freakin gorgeous, but I would never date him exclusively. He was very affectionate and loved to cuddle. Anyway one day we decided to meet up for some sexy time. However, I had not seen him two months due to our hectic work schedules. Anyway, out of the blue he asked me had a been with anybody since we last had sex. My answer was yes. The look on his face was priceless. He asked me like a zillion questions about the guy. Then asked me did I sleep with him again and my answer was no. His reply was well he just probably used u for sex. I told him well that was my intentions as well. Then he started telling me about other girls he had met since we had last seen each other. I gave him two thumbs up!LOL. But the weird thing as after we left eachother, he didn't give me the passionate kisses he usually gives me when we departed.
  • HELP... I don't want to seem b*t*hy!?

    Friends - 8 hours ago

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    Okay, i had this friend who used to be all over every guy i like. anyway, the last person this happened with is a guy that i really like, anyways, they are now dating (as usually happens)... I am not talking to her at all now, it causes too much drama. But i still want to be friends with her bf, still my crush (who she uses as a way to upset me) and she is in my dance group at school which is only made up of four people.... Any ideas how i can not talk to her but still not come across as b*t*hy??
From the Garden Shed

The dirt on spring planting

Posted Mon, May 04, 2009
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A question: would you build a house without a foundation?
Of course not.

It is, indeed, planting time. With many Canadians finally getting the good spring weather that we have been waiting for - and with Mother's Day here (a cue to many Canadians to get planting in their gardens).

This is your very best opportunity to build a foundation for your garden this year that will support plant life and grow - in reality - the garden that you have imagined all winter long. My advice is that you begin your spring planting by not planting at all, but rather, get into your garden with a sharp shovel or spade in hand and dig some holes.

You are not digging just for the fun of it - you are going to examine your soil to determine what needs to be added to it in order to grow a great garden this year.

Some helpful tips:Ducks (Mark Cullen)
Take a handful of soil and squeeze it in the palm of your hand, then bounce it around a few times.

- If the soil breaks up in your hand, you have a pretty good start. Add lots of organic material in the form of finished compost from your composter or purchased from a reliable local source. If you are buying your compost by the bag, look for a good quality national brand like C.I.L., Green Earth or Hillview.

- If you are purchasing compost by the cubic yard (i.e. truckload) make sure that you are buying from a supplier that has a solid reputation for quality. There is no sense going to all of the expense and effort to have it delivered (the easy part) and spread over your garden (the hard part) if it is second rate material.

- If your soil samples do not break up in your hand, but stay in the shape of the soil that you squeezed, it is time to assess more closely: is it clay? If so, add generous quantities of sharp sand, otherwise known as play sand (but NOT beach sand!). This will open up the clay particles, which are so small that they bind together to form an impenetrable mass. Also add the compost - as described above.

- If you are unsure of the quality of your soil (after all, you likely have a day job and chances are good that soil analysis is not a big part of it) then I recommend that you take it to a local hardware store or garden centre and talk to a trained professional. Someone who deals with soil issues often can tell you a lot about the quality of your existing soil and how to improve it.

- If you have solid clay (e.g. you could make bricks or cereal bowls out of it) I recommend that you seriously consider removing it to 40 cm (15 inches) deep and backfilling it with 50 cm of triple mix (18 inches).

What is triple mix, you ask?
An equal portion of quality top soil, peat moss and finished compost (vs. 'unfinished' or 'green' compost).

I have pretty good quality soil in my garden, but you know what, I add 2 cm or one inch of mushroom compost (the 'high octane' stuff) over the entire garden every spring. I just let the earth worms pull it down and convert it into nitrogen rich earth worm castings. This takes about 6 to 8 weeks, depending on rainfall.

If you are in a hurry or just enjoy the experience of digging, turn it under with a garden fork or small rototiller.

How important is it to prepare your garden this way?
Well, about as important as building a foundation under a house or garage. Try building one without it and you will soon understand the wisdom of building one in the first place.

If I prepare the soil well, will I still need to use 'fertilizer' on my garden plants?

This depends on the plants. Roses, clematis, most annual flowers and tomatoes are heavy feeders, so yes, you would be wise to add some fertilizer - synthetic or organic - to the soil at the time of planting and every 4 to 6 weeks until the middle of the summer. Organic gardeners should look for Green Earth products: otherwise, there are many quality synthetic products like So Green, Vigoro, and C.I.L. that will do the job for you nicely.

If you are looking for a really easy way to feed your plants over the summer try the new super slow release fertilizers that are sold under the 'Once and Done' or 'Smart Cote' labels. ducks (Mark Cullen)

After you have your soil prep done, it is time to go shopping - almost.

Next week on my blog I will cover the essentials of choosing plants for your garden - 'the right plant for the right place'. Stay tuned.

Meantime, on a personal note, the ducks have arrived! See picture for the cutest things since - well - any new born... Hewey, Dewey, Lewey and their 3 siblings (none of which are supposed to be male - so you figure it out) are living in the vestibule of the hen house for now... and when they are big enough they will move out to the Koi pond where (I am hoping) they will chow down on my abundant crop of algae.

I will keep you posted on their growth etc.

Have a great week and remember to keep your knees dirty!

Mark

I am all over the country these days - just back from the western sweep of my book tour, talking about my new Canadian Garden Primer, An Organic Approach. Look over my schedule to see when I am in your neighborhood at www.markcullen.com.

See a great segment from Canada AM this past week, from Stanley park. Go to www.ctv.ca/canadaam.

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2 Comments

  • 1. Posted by tegoga1@rogers.com on Thu, May 07, 2009

    anything written by Mark Cullen is worth reading if you are a serious gardener

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  • 2. Posted by Etana on Sat, Aug 29, 2009

    love it thanks for that. This site is also pretty good for gardening tips, http://loveonaleaf.com

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