Marriage & Divorce - 5 hours ago
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My husband is a very handsome. He had a one night stand a year ago with his exgirlfriend while i was away. After that trust has been thin. He has tried hard to make it up for that mistake. I see he has changed, been remorseful, etc. My problem is this: i know thru out our marriage women will come to him. I always ask him is there anything wrong or strange going on. He is in law enforcement and is constantly meeting people. He says no. I know he is lying, when he lies, and when he is hiding something. So I asked him straight is there anyone bothering you or interfering with our marriage. He said this girl has been calling him, then came to his job telling him that she wanted to be with him. He said he warned her and told her that he didn't wanted anything to do with her. That he is happily married. The woman still came to his job. He said he told her off for sure and that she wouldn't be bothering him again. He said he even felt good for doing this. I am glad he did this, but my worry is why wouldn't he said it from the beginning, why wait till i pose the question, To him he is not lying but protecting me. He also said he wanted to manage the situation himself. I didn't asked to manage the situation all i ask is to know about it without me asking, why, because this would build my confidence and trust in him. It would show me that there is nothing to hide. So i get frustrated, unsure when he does this. How can i deal with these situations? Should he have said something or just be quiet and keep it to himself. If i wouldn't have badgered himwith questions he would have never said anything. This bothers me a lot, mostly because of the last fling he had with his ex. Please advise.
Singles & Dating - 6 hours ago
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Someone i've been talking to for 3 years, he gets upset when we fight but doesn't take it personally, now he started to take things so personally that he actually blocked me nd removed me off facebook. He changed when he saw me dressed up in a skirt or when i fix myself, I called him a pervert when he started being nice, and he got extremely offended that he simply disappeared, I called him a pervert before he didn't care at all, that was like a year ago.
I don't understand.
Family - 7 hours ago
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Okay, this is going to get long, just as a forewarning.
My dad and step mom were together for ten years, married since 2001. She was from a nice, well-off church family, while we were considered “lower,” until she got pregnant, that is. She was always negligent of me, favoring my little brother and treating me as the metaphorical “red headed stepchild.” They had several breakups, including one where she cheated on him with one of his best friends. The next two are negligible, though the one before this is important: they break up, my dad starts to see someone, one of his sister’s best friends. They’re getting along fine, she’s older than him by a few years, has kids that are nearly grown, etc. Then my step mom gets into a suspicious car crash. My dad’s best friend (T), the one who got the wreckage of the car, said you couldn’t have lined it up more perfectly center with the tree if you had sat there with a tape measure and measured it.
So she calls my dad, crying, and he leaves M (girlfriend) for K (step mom). M warns that K will do it again, and indeed, she does. Using my dad’s drinking as the problem, she leaves him and takes my little half-brother (let’s call him A, he’s 9, 10 in May) and goes to live with her mom, just a short drive away. They try several times to work things out, but to no avail. She buys marriage books, etc. Then, all of a sudden, she comes back from a weekend getaway and it’s over. Then she admits that she’s been seeing a guy for about a month (2 weeks after they separated). So my dad calls M, who just broke up with her abusive and unemployed boyfriend, J. My dad and M get together, things are great, until K calls. Even if it’s about A, he gets moody and begins drinking.
Incident 1 my dad, T, and M are all at the house with me, and M leaves because she can’t handle his heavy drinking. My dad gets angry, and wrecks the house. In the process, he passes out in the bathroom. T and I find a bottle of Tylenol PM, spilled out over the counter. Thinking my dad killed himself, T calls 911. Turns out he’s fine. Over the next few weeks, another incident occurs, though nothing is wrecked; his gun accidentally discharges. He and M briefly break up, he starts seeing my mom for a week, then breaks up with her for M. K calls, crying for him back, and he goes to Starbucks to talk to her. This was just yesterday, and I was asleep when he came back, so I don’t know the results of that meeting, if she even showed up. He left his phone here, and the only sent text says, “I miss u, I want u and only u”, sent to K.
Also, this is worth mentioning: November of 2008, my dad received a credit card in the mail, a second CapitalOne. K forges my dad’s signature, charges it up, then pays a few payments, and ‘forgets’ about it. A week after my dad discovers this, she calls, crying for him back, as I mentioned.
I have repeatedly told my dad that if he goes back to K, I am leaving; I refuse to live with her after all she’s put me through, and, moreso, what she’s done to my dad. I am 15 years old, male. I may stay with my aunt, the one whose best friend is M, but I am not sure until I see the results of this.
I tried to summarize, but there is no possible way to put all the details on here.
@fairypelican: I am actually far ahead of my years, both mentally, intellectually, and emotionally. I am fully aware of these dynamics you speak of.
As for Al Anon, my dad insists he can detox by himself, though every time he does, he ends up having a relapse. He is too proud to ask for help.
School counselor: The only thing I'm afraid of here is that I'll be placed into a foster home, instead of being able to choose where I live.
BTW, I have every intention of leaving if he goes back to K. It is no idle threat.
Singles & Dating - 7 hours ago
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assuming you are young, single, no children and the women is divorced and have a child?? I was just wondering if anyone here mind or don't mind??
Singles & Dating - 8 hours ago
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I temp as a secretary. I have been in a placement now for 2 months and this guy does keep looking at me from time to time. I took a week off in November and when I got back he said, "Nice to see you back. I was worried that you weren't coming back". I smiled at him and thanked him for his kind words. In December he asked me, "When are you breaking up for Xmas?" I gave him the date and he said, "I'll give you some chocolates before you go". I can't see why he couldn't have just given me them without having to tell me. However, to this day, I have not received the chocs as promised by him. He is still the same pleasant usual self. Why break a promise?
Friends - 8 hours ago
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Hi i dont get why i feel like this. I have NOTHING to be sad about logically. I just feel really bad about myself today. Can someone please tell me something interesting that will make me laugh, smile or get my mind off this sad feeling within me? 10 points to the person who does the best job:) Thanks guys
Singles & Dating - 8 hours ago
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or is it truly all just an act to get in her pants?
Marriage & Divorce - 9 hours ago
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My boyfriend and I recently got back together. He broke up with me to be with someone else for two months. We were together since high school (six years). He realized that "the grass wasn't greener on the other side" and he beg me to take him back. After him consistently pursuing me, I took him back because I love him and we have a son together.
Since we got back together, our relationship has been better than before and we are gonna get married in March.
He answers any questions that I may have about their relationship in hopes to earn my trust back.
I just can't help but to wonder how she feels about the situation. When I first found out, I called her to get answers and she was really nasty towards me on the phone. However, when he broke it off with her, she tried to contact me and figure what was going on, but I refused to answer any questions for her.
He has told me that he has seen her at work and she will look his way and he will walk the in the opposite direction. She doesn't have any contact with him. His number has been changed and he switched his schedule so that they aren't working together on the same shift.
Marriage & Divorce - 9 hours ago
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What if you're with someone and he's the biggest love you ever had and ever will. Unfortunately things don't work out (you still love each other very much though) and you break up and you move to another country. You're still in contact on a more or less friendly basis. He keeps making it very clear that he still loves you and will always want you back.
Then you meet someone else, things are great for a while you even have a child together. After 4 years your ex creeps back into your head and heart and all you can think about is wanting him and being with him (even though you know it'll completely mess up your your child's and your current partner's life) Your current partner knows how your ex feels and that you're in touch. He does not know about your own feelings.
I would like nothing more than get back to the way things were with my current partner, the father of my child, but the pull to my ex is so strong, it's taking over my whole life. My partner is a great guy, though somewhat boring and emotionally detached. He works real hard and studies on top of that. We hardly get to spend any time together these days.
My ex has absolutely nothing to offer me apart from him love and a lot of excitement. I have to keep my child's best interest in mind.
You think there is a way/chance I can forget about my ex again and rebuild my current relationship? It was never very passionate, but we had a good life. I'm from a broken home myself and always said I wouldn't put my own children through it.
I know that I need to cut off all contact with my ex, but that wouldn't cut off my feelings for him.
Basically, what I am asking is: If you've fallen out of love with someone over someone else, is there a chance it can be undone? Or do I think to myself: You only live once, be with your big love, even though it makes life a lot harder? I know my ex wil love my son very much, because he's my son, but unlike his dad, he would not make a great role model.
Thanks for reading and your serious answer.
Marriage & Divorce - 9 hours ago
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Look so i am single now for about 4 weeks and i am really sad and down and i talked to somebody about my fear of never getting married and i really want to get married. And the person said that i wil never get married because iam to desperate. Is this true? Iam 23
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