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  • Can guys explain this to me?

    Singles & Dating - 6 hours ago

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    Why do some guys, not all of course, feel threatened by a girl and see her as competition rather than someone he should care for and respect.Usually they are nice and respectful at first and some guys stay that way but some guys feel they have something to prove and start to play up. I get that girls do this too, but i'm interested in why there are some guys who do this. Is it a power struggle? If its a woman that they feel no control with? she threatens his ego in some way? I get that it depends on the type of women, soe can be loud brash and yell "I'm a strong woman!"- those women are usually weak and also have something to prove. I'm just talking about normal mature level headed girls.
  • What should I do about him?

    Singles & Dating - 6 hours ago

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    I have a friend that i've known for about 9 years. We were quite good friends 9 years ago, but after that we only saw each other occasionally for years. About 6 months ago we got closer again and started seeing each other more regularly. He said to me a few months ago that all those years ago he had a massive crush on me. I was surprised and told him i'd never seen him as anything other than a friend. But I assumed he was over that. It turns out he's not and a friend of his took me to one side the other day and told me that he really, really likes me and since then he's been making it really obvious. Like he made some burritos when i went round to his flat and they were so spicy I could only eat a bit of one and he was visibly upset and kept saying sorry and that he'd f*cked up. I felt really guilty for not being able to eat more. When we chat on MSN or facebook he often implies that he likes me. I've told hm 3 times now that I only see him as a friend and now it's getting to the point that i'm uncomfortable around him. He is a really, really cool guy, I just don't fancy him The thing is, what do I do? I really want to keep this guy as a friend, he's a lot of fun and I like the people i've met through him a lot. I know the best thing is to probably just stop hanging around with him but I don't want to have to do that
  • Why would I say the wrong name while having sex?

    Singles & Dating - 6 hours ago

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    Ok so i know this has probably happened before but while having sex with my gf i popped out the name of my ex. Not only do i feel awful about this, but its eating me up inside as to why. The only thing i can think of is she was on top and the only girl that ever did that before was my ex, so my fool male mind shot out the name it associated the feeling with. I know all the girls that will reply to this will probably think me some scumbag, but I'm not cheating on my current gf, i love and adore her more than anyone i've ever met, that's why this is killing me. To boot I honestly hated my ex, she moved in with me after like 2 weeks, stayed eating my food, using me as a taxi, and just caused more problems for me than anyone i've ever been with for 6 long months. I didn't have the balls to boot her to the curb and let her live on the street so that's my fault, but why in the world i moan her name?! I'm sitting here with the greatest girl i've ever met, and i blurt out THAT name. Not even a famous name like Heidi Klum, but my freaking ex! I keep asking myself WTF, but nothing comes to mind really other than i'm a total moron. So if any guys, or girls have any idea what the hell i was thinking please enlighten me. She's sticking around for now, but i don't know for how long, all i know is i feel like i don't deserve her.
  • Girls is a hairy guy bad or a turn off?

    Singles & Dating - 6 hours ago

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    I 22 and have hairy legs and bum... NO back hair. very little chest hair... but from waste down I am quite hairy. I'm european - portuguese.. I do feel insecure and am scared that woman might prefer baby smooth... do all woman prefer everything shaved?
  • Should I forgive my best friend?

    Friends - 6 hours ago

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    My best friend of twenty odd years decided to send me a email the other day commenting on my grammar and said that my English was very bad. I had made a comment about a person in a picture and she picked me up on it, saying how, it was only a simple grammar mistake but that I should improve my english. I took this very badly, and probably replied in haste with a few horrible comments, she then said she knew I would act this way, but what I cant understand is, if she knew I would act this way, why would she do or such a thing. She has apologised but when she does it doesn't seem very sincere because she then comes back with, I was doing you a favour by pointing out your english errors, Im sorry you feel this way but......etc etc. I ended up texting her and apologising , saying I probably overreacted but she then left my 16 hours to stew, thinking that it was all my fault...again what friend does this? Im seriously stressed and upset about the whole situation, we have been best friends for years and it came out of nowhere, do you think I should forgive her and move on or would you end the friendship?? I'd really appreciate your advice peeps .
  • Did she break up with me or was it me?

    Singles & Dating - 6 hours ago

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    A few weeks ago she asked whether I was happy with her and if I wanted to continue the realtionship given she felt I still liked my ex. Two weeks later I broke up with her saying that I didnt think there was any future for us. Not because of the ex, but because we were not the right match. She agreed. A few weeks after when I called her she asked that I stop contacting her because she had found the the emails I had sent to my ex during our relationship. I had written how much I loved my ex and thought of her and how little my current gf meant. I was definetly embarrased, but still dont think we belong together. My question really is....was it me or did she break up..or was it mutual?
  • Are there any men left that will buy a woman dinner and not expect anything in return?

    Singles & Dating - 6 hours ago

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    Beastly - been out with 2 muslims and would never do that again. They have less respect for women that other guys.
  • How do I stop being sceptical about guys?

    Singles & Dating - 6 hours ago

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    I dumped my ex for being a sleaze. He was just into sex and was quite disrespectful so I dumped his ass pretty quickly. However there is this new guy who is everything I could want. He is reserved, intellectual, gorgeous well mannered refined and gentlemanly. He seems shy and stares at me a lot, his face lights up when we catch eyes and he holds my gaze and smiles at me. I really want to talk to him but part of me feels angry that he is showing me he thinks i'm attractive. because of my ex i'm wary of being seen as a sex object. I don't advertise myself as one i'm shy, dignified, quiet, bookish and dress modestly. How can I appreciate the fact that a guy actually seems to like me? I can assure you forlorn hope that it was only me who was mature. This guy was the biggest creep you could meet.
  • How Can I Improve My Dating?

    Singles & Dating - 7 hours ago

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    Okay, I've given up on getting a girlfriend the conventional way, I'm in my senior year in college and I've never had a girlfriend, and I haven't met any single women through my friends, in fact all the girls I know are taken. So I started internet dating and I'm still not getting any responses, not even with users that I match over 90% with. So here's my profile at plenty of fish.com view it if you could and tell me what's lacking and why women that I match very well with won't reply to me. I really need the help http://www.plentyoffish.com/member9369742.htm I've run out of users in my tiny central wisconsin area. I'm really running out of options for dates, I don't know what to do anymore. I don't know if I'm just not interesting to women or what. Somebody please help me, it would be greatly appreciated. And no I don't have a single better picture
  • My guy friend wants me to go into a physical relationship with him after I told him I wasn't interested?

    Singles & Dating - 7 hours ago

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    My question is would you consider this person to have problems if he can't take no as an answer the first time? I'm early 20's but he's much older. Adults can behave/act immature at times.
The Lifestylists

How to save some cash without sacrificing your lifestyle

Posted Mon, Jul 06, 2009
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For the record, I would have done a double-take if Vanessa did walk into work in a loin cloth or a burlap sack. Then I would have started laughing because I would have assumed she did it for a bet.Yes, I'm nice that way.

Friends around a computer (Gettyimages.com)However, Vanessa did raise a good point about being more aware of how and on what you're spending your money. So let's move beyond just the cost-per-wear of clothing and look at other ways to save some cash. I'll admit, part of it is as a result of my recent, "Oh my god, I'm never going to be able to pay my mortgage!" emotional freakout. (For the record, I did do my financial due diligence before purchasing - this was just first time home-buyer nerves). But I have been thinking of ways I can cut down on my expenses apart from bringing my lunch into work.

1. Fashion and decor magazines. Oh, how I love the glossy mags but after buying Flare, Allure, Fashion Magazine, Elle UK, Lucky and Vogue UK I've spent approximately $50-$60 a month. Yikes!

I still want (need) to read those magazines so I've dusted off my library card and gone in for a couple hours to flip through the new issues. This also applies to books, of course.

2. If you're a Lifestyle reader then you've probably read our articles on coupons. I love save.ca and other deal sites. You sign up, click your coupon choice and save a loonie or two on your next purchase. If you have a Visa card you can use Visa perks. BUT and this is a big but, do not buy stuff you don't usually buy or use your Visa if you do not have the money to immediately pay it off. We're all supposed to be saving money.

3. Consignment, thrift and vintage stores. If you have to shop, why not try consignment stores? If you don't mind the concept of used clothing (dry clean them or handwash them before wearing), take a couple hours and head out with your list and hit the shops. You might find your wish list item for a song. On the other hand, you can take your unwanted items to the stores and get a little cash.

4. Automatic debit: No, not using and abusing your debit card, but the "pay yourself first system." Look at your budget. Is there extra cash that you won't miss? If you do have the cash, arrange for your bank or your company if they do so to take the money out before you get your paycheque. You can't miss or spend it if you don't see it plus you build up your nest egg.


What's your trick to save some cash? Share it with us!

-- Renee

 

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  • 1. Posted by Liz on Mon, Jul 06, 2009

    Great ideas, especially #4. I was able to cut back expenses on a few things, so now I transfer the money to a savings account automatically.

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  • 2. Posted by Roguetheelf24 on Mon, Jul 06, 2009

    What's my trick to saving cash? Well, I don't know if this would work with others, but as for myself, I always remind myself that money can't be saved if you keep dipping into it. I'm planning a vacation trip to Australia this year, so I know that if I touch any of the money I've saved, it'll take longer to have the funds to go on vacation.

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  • 3. Posted by Social CF on Mon, Jul 06, 2009

    Great tips!

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  • 4. Posted by Cher A on Wed, Jul 08, 2009

    Very often, I put spare change into coin tubes, whether it be quarters, nickels, dimes, etc. Also, the odd Loonie or Toonie. I don't break bills to do this, just at the end of the day. You'd be amazed at how quickly this adds up. Before you know it, you've got $10.00 in quarters, or $5.00 in dimes, etc.

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  • 5. Posted by focus nicky on Wed, Jul 08, 2009

    Like Cher A I roll my change. But the difference is I do break bills. I use the cash budget (I am one who learns from seeing) so most of my weekly (monthly) cash is in fives so when I buy something I only use the bills (the loonies and toonies too) and at the end of the day I dump all the quarters, dimes, nickles and pennies into my change vase. Every couple of months I go through and roll them up. The total of change I receive I put into my savings account (which I have had my bank take off my online bank page). Out of sight, out of mind, so to speak. I put any extra funds(grocery paybacks, GST, child tax, etc) into this account too. At the time of year when I can make that balloon payment to my mortgage that is the funds I use. I just started doing that last year and was shown that by making that extra payment I saved myself $80,000 on interest (I have a subprime rate too) and knocked off 6.5 years on my mortgage. If I can keep this up I may be mortgage free in less than 10 years (40 year mortgage, got house less than two years ago)! Those are my stratigies that work for me. I am also a single mom (of young child in daycare) who makes just above average. I had alot of help setting things up by a CFO friend of mine. Talk to someone (who actually knows what they are doing) about getting help too!! I hope maybe this will help someone out there. But if not ah well.... :)

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