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Should I giver Her A Chance?
Singles & Dating - 5 hours ago
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its ben 3 years already, n i finally got an answer from the gurl i loved since those years. and her answer is idk. i try to talk with her on the fone but she ignores me most of the time. even if i tol her how i felt she still makes me feel like she doesnt want me. she usd to be so innocenet but since times past idk if shes the same one. anyways after i told her how i felt i suddenly changed how i fekt. like i dont even love her as i did.. now this girl asked me out two days ago and i said idk, should i give her the chance because she seems so nice and cute
Why does she have sex all the time and shes only 13?
Other - Family & Relationships - 5 hours ago
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am 14 and i have this friend that is about 13 i knew her since like 4 years now and shes always been a nice helpfull person when we got to our secondary school at the end of year seven she started having fights at school and at the start of year 9 she told me she had sex with this random person and now she does it all the time. Yesterday i spoke to her and she was like ohh you know that guy from our year i had it with him. So all im wondering about is why does she do it and does she think it makes her seem cooler ?? Its maybe because she lives in a bad area or that she has 16 brothers and sisters and she is trying to have her own life without them i dont know what to think ???
HELP... I don't want to seem b*t*hy!?
Friends - 6 hours ago
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Okay, i had this friend who used to be all over every guy i like. anyway, the last person this happened with is a guy that i really like, anyways, they are now dating (as usually happens)... I am not talking to her at all now, it causes too much drama. But i still want to be friends with her bf, still my crush (who she uses as a way to upset me) and she is in my dance group at school which is only made up of four people.... Any ideas how i can not talk to her but still not come across as b*t*hy??
just text my cheating husband about tomorrow mornings breakfast date.?
Marriage & Divorce - 6 hours ago
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i know he cheated i caught him in the act in our bed a few months back and left. he text asking me to meet up with him for breakfast. he said we are gonna work things out and he said after wards if you don't mind i would love to take you back home for awhile while the kids are at school. is he wanting s*x or to what? please
This is really confusing, can I get some help?
Singles & Dating - 7 hours ago
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If she has you hold her and link arms and wont let you kiss her but it's obvious there's something there, what the hell's going on lol? She asks me how I am in relationships, she keeps bringing up gf and bf thigns. She put some flowers I gave her in her scrapbook. She told me today that I'm the only guy that's ever made her nervous and that she sees the way I look at her. She looks in my eyes and says she feels theres something I want to tell her, and there is that I like her, should I turn this into a relationship? Next time I speak to her I'm going to ask her on a date.
Should I have done this?
Singles & Dating - 7 hours ago
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Okay, so over the years my best friend has had a really great boyfriend - or so we thought. I'm regretting it a little since I got myself involved, but what he did to her was really horrible and the way it ended wasn't good at all. I'm not going to dive too deep into the details of what happened, but since I'm trying to help my friend cope I came up with a silly and stupid ploy to do for revenge. Apparently he cheated on her with this asian girl, and I feel cruel for doing this but I photoshopped his head onto a body of a Geisha... LOL!!!!! Stupid and immature, but my best friend Jenna needed a good laugh. We're debating whether or not we should send him and that girl the photo on Myspace or Facebook, but I'm kinda scared to, haha. What do you say? I think he deserves some embarrassment... Original picture - http://i45.tinypic.com/2d9bfo0.jpg Geisha makeover - http://i45.tinypic.com/142ubn8.jpg Hahaha, it's official. I am awesome. <3
PORN QUESTION........?
Marriage & Divorce - 7 hours ago
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y husband and i have been going through a rough patch since we discovered i was pregnant in January 2008, now i have had the baby she is 3 months old my husband has started watching porn on the INTERNET body is not what it used to be and i dont like my husband becoming aroused over these women. How can i explain to my husband how i feel without making him feel like he is being attacked, he says that it helps with his sex drive does that mean i no longer turn him on. have any other women had a similar experience with there husband
please spread your wisdom to me, i need advice?
Other - Family & Relationships - 8 hours ago
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fml. why is there more bad days than good days? why does life suck at times? why does it seem that everyone but me can get through the hard times so easily? how do i become emotionally stronger? and please dont be mean & tell me to go get help. i am not depressed. i just have had a lot of bad things happen recently.
Should I take this in a relationship direction?
Singles & Dating - 8 hours ago
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So this girl and I are at the friends with benefits stage, but so far she hasn't even let me kiss. On saturday she was looking in my eyes calling me handsome, and shy, and she pressed her body up against mines for warmth, linked my arm in hers, I knew she likes me, but I only got to kiss her on the forehead. I rubbed her butt, rubbed her back at the party, just to let her know it's alright to be physical with me. But when around public, or my close friends, I don't like to be intimate with women. Well today she asked me how I am in relationships and she said she sees the tension in me, and she gets a weird vibe from me I say good or bad she says not bad, and that she feels theres something I want to say to her. She changed infront of me today with her sister in the room and she's real cool with me. I'm starting to like her, but stopping myself because its a friend with benefit thing.
I have a question, regarding her feelings?
Singles & Dating - 8 hours ago
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So this girl and I are at the friends with benefits stage, but so far she hasn't even let me kiss. On saturday she was looking in my eyes calling me handsome, and shy, and she pressed her body up against mines for warmth, linked my arm in hers, I knew she likes me, but I only got to kiss her on the forehead. I rubbed her butt, rubbed her back at the party, just to let her know it's alright to be physical with me. But when around public, or my close friends, I don't like to be intimate with women. Well today she asked me how I am in relationships and she said she sees the tension in me, and she gets a weird vibe from me I say good or bad she says not bad, and that she feels theres something I want to say to her. She changed infront of me today with her sister in the room and she's real cool with me, whats her intentions? I'm starting to like her, but stopping myself because its a friend with benefit thing. I was going to text her 2nite and say "Whats up would it be bugging if I asked if we could kick it tomorrow". Good or bad idea? Thanks. She's cool and I'd get with her, should I take it in the relationship direction?

Social networking and break-ups

Posted Tue, Jun 30, 2009

13 Comments

1. Posted by Kristin on Thu, Jul 02, 2009

No it's not cool. It's not like they talk. And if they do, whatever, right? My b/f cheated on me with 6 of my friends, [profane] happens...
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2. Posted by nh on Thu, Jul 02, 2009

We can all really be friends with whomever we want, but really... After a break-up, all of the hurt and pain that comes along with it, do we really need our best friends still talking to the guy that just caused us so much frustration and pain? All that does is opens up doors for resentment towards that friend, and plants the fear that that friend may be going behind your back and either talking to your ex about you, or doing something "else" with him. Also, it's a bit creepy when that ex only added your friends because you were dating, but then keeps them on HIS list after the break up, and then uses those friends to somehow stay in contact with you. In the end of it though, it really depends on the relationship. You can rant and rave all you want about how the person's acting "12".... But until you're in that specific situation where it's actually causing you problems having your ex remain in some form of contact with your friends, your opinions can't quite apply to the situation. Personally, I'm not the type of "friend" that keeps contact with my best friend(s) exs after they break up. Alternately, I don't think I'd like to have those types of "friends" in my life either. I think it's best that if you no longer want that person in your life, cut the ties you have. It will only pro-long the pain and cause distrust among friends.
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3. Posted by noeffects83 on Thu, Jul 02, 2009

abSOLUTEly not! 100% not ok. you should choose your friends by what you like about them, not by who's friends with them. honestly that is such a 12 year old thing....like stated in the article: SOMEONE HAS TO BE THE ADULT IN THE RELATIONSHIP. if the guy did a total [profane] move then that sucks for the girl. big time. her friends can decide if what happened was a bad enough quality in the guy to not be friends with him anymore. if a girl demands that her friends defriend her ex, in most cases shes a very controlling insecure girl. nobody has the right to decide who you are friends with.
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4. Posted by Shaylaina on Thu, Jul 02, 2009

It's true that a lot of people on facebook aren't 'friends' per say. They are in a friend's list but people add people. I feel that life is too short not to keep a friend if you found one. I dated when I was single, it didn't always work, Doesn't mean I don't like that person, it means that we were too different. I met some very nice people whlie dating and I consider them a friend. So what we dated, it didn't work out but it doesn't mean they are a horrible person. I did date a person who really isn't nice and even he is still on my friends, but I don't have any contact with him at all. "It's complicated" is not asking for attention. That's crazy. It was really complicated for awhile for me and my ex. No one asked me why or what it was about and I didn't want anyone to, it's just the way it was at the time. Actually had people sympathize with comments like "I hate when that happens" or "been there myself" We didn't share each other's stories. It happens often for young and even us older folks. Keep what friends you have if it's what you want to do, it's your life and it doesn't last that long. If it's complicated, that's ok, nothing much in life is black and white.
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5. Posted by theoriginalspy on Fri, Jul 03, 2009

Unless the break up was particularly nasty, and the ex is mostly at fault, then no. If your friends will only stay your friends because they determine who you can and cannot talk to, then why are they your friends.
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6. Posted by Mintak on Sat, Jul 04, 2009

It's great to take the high road when it hasn't actually happened to you and you're just offering your opinion, sure there are a lot things that should be done in this world but the reality is that they are not, such as no more war, no more famine okay wait let me write it and TADA, there os no more war or hunger . Come on, let's get real and offer some advice that we ourselves would actually follow. If your boyfriend and friend became friends because of you and the break up was not exactually mutual then she should definetly de-friend him. What are friends for if not to take your side. Now if your friend was friends with him prior to you then unfortunately your short out of luck.
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7. Posted by suburbiancivilian on Sat, Jul 04, 2009

I personally think if my buddy was talking to my ex g.f after we broke behind my back after he said he would take her off his friends list that is kinda suspect...It doesnt mean she is insecure. I'd feel the same way...
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8. Posted by Not a Kicker on Sat, Jul 04, 2009

Wow, people actually think being a "friend" on facebook means something, being on a "friend" list in facebook is like being in someones address book, doesn't really mean much. I've got tons of numbers in mine that I never call, and if a friend of mine got upset because I had their ex's number on my cell, I'd prob delete it, but I would think they're acting like an immature 12 year old.
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9. Posted by redspice on Sat, Jul 04, 2009

I'm sorry, but I guess I'm the kind of person who sticks up for my friends. If my gf or guy friend had a bad relationship with someone and deleted them from their Facebook, it's probably for a good reason. So, if I had that same 'evil' person on my Facebook, life will go on if I delete them, too. Why do I need them? It's not like they are important to me. My friend is the one who's important to me.
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10. Posted by kiwihelen on Sun, Jul 05, 2009

Much and all as I hate some of my facebook friends being "friends" with my ex and his now wife who he left me for, the other choice is to not be friends with them. They are grown-ups, they have a relationship with those other people separate from me. I know what a nasty piece of work this woman is, and how much of an ass my ex was, and by demanding friend loyalty I would be just lowering myself to their level. But believe me, I am very careful what I say on open board, if something is important it goes by email or snail mail to those I really care about.
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11. Posted by mirage77 on Mon, Oct 19, 2009

If an ex was bad to a friend of mine, I would delete him from my friend's list and if it happened to me I would expect my close friends to do that too. How is it okay for a friend to still have your ex as a friend if they're not actually really friends and he was an idiot? Friends should stick up for friends.
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12. Posted by soulfulsynthya on Mon, Oct 19, 2009

Funny how this article resurfaced... kind of like that 'bad' "friend" on Facebook...... Really you rule your own world (with God's help of course) and you can choose to be bitter, and only be destroying yourself.. Or choose joy and delete the crappy friends on facebook!
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13. Posted by anthonypapotto on Mon, Oct 19, 2009

After reading this article ,and reading each and every ones comments WOW, way to much hateing going on if a failed relationship or failed friendship learn from it and moved on choose your relations much carefully , thats all .
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