Domestic Bliss?

1. Posted by coneflower on Fri, Nov 06, 2009

well ,well i thought it was OUR home ,OUR amily so i think it should be US keeping it clean .and sex when you have children in the house just has be be when they are asleep or not at home if everyone is normal and not looking for pole dancing and lap dancing.

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2. Posted by Jim on Sat, Nov 07, 2009

Sex is NOT a bargaining chip, yet it seems most of the men I know are subjected to this type of power play in their homes. Is it any wonder more couples are turning to the principles of D/s as the foundation of a more "Traditional" style relationship???

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3. Posted by Joji on Mon, Nov 09, 2009

I don't know is it me or seems like the Media is portraying men as a stupid moron comapre to Women, every comercial you see on TV is sending this message out. This Article is Stupid. The Difference b/w a Home and a House is if all family members contribute, Most men usually just sit on the Couch, drink beer and watch TV, does this look attractive? Nope. If the Husband contributes, the wife women feels secure, happy and content that she's got a "Home". If the women is happy ofcourse she will want her Mate, her Husband, her man to be happy too... Whats so difficult about that?

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4. Posted by kev-cz on Tue, Nov 10, 2009

Joji: There's nothing terribly difficult about it, when it works. Too often it doesn't. It's easy enough to contribute to the upkeep of the home in general, it's not so easy to do it when every contribution you make gets picked apart because your significant other doesn't know how to be satisfied. I know how to vacuum a floor, wash the dishes and clean a bathroom without being supervised and told I'm not doing it right, thank you very much. See how much it improves your sex life after a day of having eveything you do picked apart to the nth degree by your significant other. It does nothing to increase the libido or to encourage further "contributions" to the upkeep of the home when you pretty much know before hand that nothing you do is going to meet with satisfaction. Thankfully my current girlfriend doesn't do that too much, but I could tell you about an ex of mine.....

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5. Posted by Joji on Tue, Nov 10, 2009

@kev-cz: I agree some are not easily satisfied - One word "Communication" may help. Dishes go in the Dishwasgher, very less input from me. She takes the kitchen, I take over the vaccum. Yes there are things that I do and she is not happy with it.. She does those herself. Just both of theparties have to be understanding. However if She is driving and I am sitting next to her - THAT DOES NOT GO WELL....

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6. Posted by CK on Tue, Nov 17, 2009

My wife and I have been married 29 years and my response to this is that I am only too happy to do a series of designated chores around the house as long as she is as well. I absolutely will not be instructed or criticized by her in any way shape or form during the completion of these tasks, and I in turn will not instruct or criticize her and wil express appreciation of her work. But if she attempts to control the cleaning process too much she will feel my anger in turn. When it comes to sex we have our timing of 6 times a month, nothing whatsoever to do with the state of the house or whether the kids are around etc (mind you ours are late teens) and I will never allow her to put off sex using the cleaning or an other reason for that matter as an excuse. I am not a controlling person but I have found that I had to take control in these two areas in the ways that I mentioned for the marriage to have a sense of balance and I truly feel sorry for any man that has his sex life based on his ability to clean a floor, an absolute turn off for any man and if she denies sex on a regular basis because of that I would be seeing my lawyer.

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7. Posted by CK on Tue, Nov 17, 2009

Also I am tired of this same finding every study, which I note has been led by female researchers. I would not trust the findings of any women led study of this type, as its findings are a forgone conclusion. They know the results they want and the study is set up in such a way as to get it. I would also like to see a study about male /female work hours outside of the house work factored in as well, as in many of the families I know the husband still contributes the larger share to the financial well being of the home and yet that was not counted in any way when it came time to "study" who did the most work for the family, and believe me when I say making money for the family IS a form a housework.

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