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  • I'm depressed!! And i want this feeling to go away!! How can i do that?

    Friends - 4 hours ago

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    Well it's kinda a long story but i meet this boy last year and we became good friends, and then i'm in the 8th grade and he's in the 9th grade so now he wont talk to me or hug me he just think i'm invisible all the time! like he doesn't see me anymore!! So i gave him a letter but he called me a cleany or something like that!! and it means that i hug him to much!! other girls hug him too! why not me? but i love hugging boys!! so now what i don't want to be depressed all my life help me!!

  • pick yes or no????????????

    Singles & Dating - 4 hours ago

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    i have something in my mind please help me by pick either yes or no????? thanks alot

  • My girlfriend told me last night she liked her ex still and i felt sick in the stomach.Ignore it or act?

    Singles & Dating - 4 hours ago

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    Her ex use to abuse her and did things no human should do to a women

  • Does she still like me?

    Singles & Dating - 4 hours ago

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    I went out with this girl, and we loved each other very much. We would always tell each other we love each other. we never kissed cuz im really shy and don't talk much. becuz i dont talk much, she broke up wit me. we still flirt with each other and i still love her. i tried to get her back, but she said if i wasn't with another guy i would be going back out. Is she joking? Also my other friend, said she was checking me out, but i never noticed it. i asked her and she said "i don't remember". i told her i didn't notice cuz i was lost in her eyes. she said"awwww". She always calls me cute, messes with me, calls me boob(she has always called me that), invites me to everything, touches me(pushes, pinches, ect.) when she can, and she looks at me, but when i look at her, she looks away. She is really nice and very beautiful. i text her constantly and if i dont text her first, she texts me at any chance possible. Does she still like me or not? Please help and thank you also, im only 13 and we r BFF's now. she told me that she wishes we would have kissed and i feel bad. we only went out for about a month

  • If I wanted to move on from someone, would God help me, or no?

    Singles & Dating - 5 hours ago

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    There is this girl who I want to move on from. If I want to move on, must I do it all by myself, or will He help me with it?? What if He doesnt want me to move on??

  • Women, Do You Consider Yourself A Strong Person?

    Marriage & Divorce - 5 hours ago

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    Not physically, but mentally and emotionally... When you and your partner fight, or have an argument or a conflict, and it hurts so so so bad, how do you deal with it? When you want to talk about the issue because you want to fix it because you want to have a happy and healthy relationhip but your partner doesn't want to, how do you deal with it?

  • Would you say my ex boyfriend still is attracted to me?10 points to best answer.?

    Singles & Dating - 5 hours ago

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    We offical broke up tuesday and to sum up why we broke up, he wanted a break for a week, I was misunderstanding.dumped him the next day. he wanted me back, I said sorry and we were gona get back together then **** happened and he never called then he tried to call but I was mad because he took so long so I made it sound like I didn't want him back then he was hurt and didn't want me back when I tried the next day and then I sent him a sorry message and say I am understanding now, I was wrong and blah. he accepted it but he still wants to be friends. were on good terms now Anyway. I went up to his locker to say hi to him and the whole time he was making eye conact with me and smiling and laughing and was all happy. He was like "Hi! how are you, how did your finals go" and stuff. and like "What are you doing this weekend" so we talked a little bit but the whole time I acted depressed then he was like "are you wearing lotion or something" then he's like with a teasing smile "you smell reallly goood" and he just kept looking at me and then after I thought I should go, cause I thought he was leaving and when I tried to leave he went up to me and he was just like laughing and he's like where are you going and I said "social studies" and he's like "ok I will walk you there" so I just wanted to be like uh no because I wanted to cry but I was like ok but I walked behind him and I was looking at the ground then he appeared next to me and he's like "are you ok" and im like "yeahh" and he looked at my shoes and since their all draw over he laughed and he's like again with this teasing, cute smile "I likke your outfit"and im like "thanks.." (but the thing is I was just wearing a baggy gray sweatshirt,jeans and conversers..nothing special) and then he moved my hair and touched my face and smiled and I kinda smiled akwadly and he seemed like he felt akward then and hes like "something wa son ur uh face" and im like "thanks..." and then I kinda stoped talking to hima and he turned at the corner without saying bye -also at his locker I noticed he left up my post it note that I put on saying "my full name loves his full name forever. so I mean idn maybe he just didnt feel like taking it down. so does it sound like hes still attracted to me. because I mean eys I want him back but I atleast wana no hes still attracted to me. like I mean I am nto saying I would fool around with him, but does it sounds like he could be freinds with benefits with me. because myabe going to a realtionshipw would be stupid because hes leavinf gor college next year. but I really do love him and I mean I wana be more then friends.

  • tried to move on but i cant!?

    Singles & Dating - 5 hours ago

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    my story is that i met this guy from england in januarywhile he was here in the states on vacation, and we really hit it off. i hung out with him only twice for a total of maybe 7-8 hours or so. i FELL IN LOVE. and he really started to like me too, and he told me he did. when he went back to england, i found him on facebook like he wanted me to and we talked occaionally. then i noticed he was in a relationship...slowly we havent talked in a long time. im extremely jealous of this girl because i know that if he was here, we'd be together. now we havent talked in a few months. i know he has completely moved on. i still think about him everyday. everything reminds me of him and its really hard. i even sent him a message recently and recieved no return. people have given me the same advice to move on already and they'll be another guy just as good or better. its just impossible. ive tried to find a distaction in another guy, but theres no one. i dont know what i expected, i mean really. its just hard to know that he read my message and didnt even respond. its been 11 months, and i still havent gone through a day that i havent thought of him. i hate that he doesnt think of me like that... what should i do? song suggestions? HELP

  • How do girls know when a guy is looking at their rear end?

    Singles & Dating - 5 hours ago

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    How do they know to turn around?

  • Does he actually like me? 10 POINTS FOR BEST ANSWER?

    Singles & Dating - 5 hours ago

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    So this is what happened yesterday, I was at lunch in my table talking with my BFF's. And then this guy name Luis came over to our table with his detention paper and showed it to his friends. Then I heard Luis say "Hey hang hang on I got to talk to this girl." So he sat next to me and he said "What's up?" and he just kept staring at me up and down. And I said nothing much and then he said "So anything personal you want to tell me? Because I know yesterday your friends said you like me...Oh wait, what was it? Right....Genevieve likes me." (genevieve is my name but when he said that he didn't mean it in a mean way) Then after he said that he looked down at the table and was nervous for a few seconds then he said "Why did you tell your friends that you like me? I wanted it to be kept a secret..." and I just told him I don't know. And then he was like "Did you just looked at me in the yearbook?" and I told him yes and then suddenly my friend Cassandra just blirted out to me saying "Genevieve don't act like a *****...." and I told her "But I'm not acting like a *****...." and then Luis said "Who called you a *****?" and I said "Cassandra did." and suddenly it looked like as if he defended me because he said this to Cassandra: "Shut the **** up don't call her a *****." then he looked at his picture in the yearbook and he said to his own picture "Haha **** you!" very rapidly. Then somehow at the end he just kept staring at me and staring at me and so did I and I was a little nervous and then Cassandra said "Why are you staring at her?" and he said "I don't know 'cause I'm bored...." and he kept staring at me and not looking anywhere else and I also stared at him and we didn't say anything. Then I heard my other friend Marrisa whispering to my friend Cassandra saying "I think there having there moment...." and then the bell rong and then he got out of his chair and I just packed up and when he passed by me he turned back to look at me one more time. Also in the beginning I called him cute and he then he said "Yeah...." while staring down. I think he doesn't want to admit that he also likes me too? Also I kind of stalk him when he talks to girls and he just acts all normal to them and he doesn't even stare at them that much and I've noticed that he talks to them differently then when he talks to me. Does he like me? Is he kind of nervous to admit his feelings even though he has the confidence to come and talk to me? How can I move on to the next level with him? We don't know each other that much we recently started talking about 1/2 weeks ago. Also I swear whenever he stares at me he stares STRAIGHT INTO MY EYES not anywhere else and so do I. My heart beats a little because I do like him.

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According to a new study out of the U.S., the more housework a husband does, the more sex he gets. But hold on fella, before you jump up and start scrubbing the toilet, according to the study, the effect wasn't causal. While most couples complain that trying to juggle work, family and keeping the dust bunnies from multiplying too quickly leaves little time for sex, the study of almost 7000 married couples revealed that those who work hardest, also do the most housework and yes, have the most sex.

'Rather than compromise their sex life' because of time demands at work or at home, 'this group of go-getters seems to make sex a priority,' says Constance Gager, lead researcher and an assistant professor of family and child studies at Montclair State University, Montclair, New Jersey.

But it's not just about being overachievers. The researchers also said that many couples in the study, published online in the Journal of Family Issues, said that sharing household duties made them feel more like a team working together to maintain their home which in turn, made them feel more intimate.

This study isn't the first to make the connection between sharing household duties and marital bliss. Couples in one U.S. study out of the Pew Research Center placed 'sharing household chores' as the third most important factor in a successful marriage, behind faithfulness and a happy sexual relationship.

Unfortunately, according to this study, women still spend an average 41.8 hours a week on housework, compared with 23.4 hours for husbands. And, I have yet to see a TV ad in which hubby's gobsmacked by the amazing scrubbing power of some new cleaning product unless it's got some kind of masculinity-preserving technology behind it. It's not like we're still living in a 1950s sitcom and there are certainly plenty of guys who more than pull their domestic weight, but generally, women still do most of the housework. And many resent it.

While the couples who did more housework and had more sex in the New Jersey study was more about their go-getter attitudes in general and not necessarily a causal relationship - that is, that doing more housework leads to more sex -- I've heard more than one woman joke that her idea of great foreplay is having her husband do the dishes or the laundry without having to be asked. Only thing is, she's probably not joking. Maybe you should get up and scrub that toilet after all.

How do you and your partner share the housework? Does it cause conflict in your marriage?

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  • 1. Posted by coneflower on Fri, Nov 06, 2009

    well ,well i thought it was OUR home ,OUR amily so i think it should be US keeping it clean .and sex when you have children in the house just has be be when they are asleep or not at home if everyone is normal and not looking for pole dancing and lap dancing.

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  • 2. Posted by Jim on Sat, Nov 07, 2009

    Sex is NOT a bargaining chip, yet it seems most of the men I know are subjected to this type of power play in their homes. Is it any wonder more couples are turning to the principles of D/s as the foundation of a more "Traditional" style relationship???

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  • 3. Posted by Joji on Mon, Nov 09, 2009

    I don't know is it me or seems like the Media is portraying men as a stupid moron comapre to Women, every comercial you see on TV is sending this message out. This Article is Stupid. The Difference b/w a Home and a House is if all family members contribute, Most men usually just sit on the Couch, drink beer and watch TV, does this look attractive? Nope. If the Husband contributes, the wife women feels secure, happy and content that she's got a "Home". If the women is happy ofcourse she will want her Mate, her Husband, her man to be happy too... Whats so difficult about that?

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  • 4. Posted by kev-cz on Tue, Nov 10, 2009

    Joji: There's nothing terribly difficult about it, when it works. Too often it doesn't. It's easy enough to contribute to the upkeep of the home in general, it's not so easy to do it when every contribution you make gets picked apart because your significant other doesn't know how to be satisfied. I know how to vacuum a floor, wash the dishes and clean a bathroom without being supervised and told I'm not doing it right, thank you very much. See how much it improves your sex life after a day of having eveything you do picked apart to the nth degree by your significant other. It does nothing to increase the libido or to encourage further "contributions" to the upkeep of the home when you pretty much know before hand that nothing you do is going to meet with satisfaction. Thankfully my current girlfriend doesn't do that too much, but I could tell you about an ex of mine.....

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  • 5. Posted by Joji on Tue, Nov 10, 2009

    @kev-cz: I agree some are not easily satisfied - One word "Communication" may help. Dishes go in the Dishwasgher, very less input from me. She takes the kitchen, I take over the vaccum. Yes there are things that I do and she is not happy with it.. She does those herself. Just both of theparties have to be understanding. However if She is driving and I am sitting next to her - THAT DOES NOT GO WELL....

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  • 6. Posted by CK on Tue, Nov 17, 2009

    My wife and I have been married 29 years and my response to this is that I am only too happy to do a series of designated chores around the house as long as she is as well. I absolutely will not be instructed or criticized by her in any way shape or form during the completion of these tasks, and I in turn will not instruct or criticize her and wil express appreciation of her work. But if she attempts to control the cleaning process too much she will feel my anger in turn. When it comes to sex we have our timing of 6 times a month, nothing whatsoever to do with the state of the house or whether the kids are around etc (mind you ours are late teens) and I will never allow her to put off sex using the cleaning or an other reason for that matter as an excuse. I am not a controlling person but I have found that I had to take control in these two areas in the ways that I mentioned for the marriage to have a sense of balance and I truly feel sorry for any man that has his sex life based on his ability to clean a floor, an absolute turn off for any man and if she denies sex on a regular basis because of that I would be seeing my lawyer.

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  • 7. Posted by CK on Tue, Nov 17, 2009

    Also I am tired of this same finding every study, which I note has been led by female researchers. I would not trust the findings of any women led study of this type, as its findings are a forgone conclusion. They know the results they want and the study is set up in such a way as to get it. I would also like to see a study about male /female work hours outside of the house work factored in as well, as in many of the families I know the husband still contributes the larger share to the financial well being of the home and yet that was not counted in any way when it came time to "study" who did the most work for the family, and believe me when I say making money for the family IS a form a housework.

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