My best friend's guy

31. Posted by 1luckywitch on Tue, May 27, 2008

I beleive if you have respect for yourself and your friend you would stay away from the ex. it is just a matter of tastee

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32. Posted by sweetnessa on Tue, May 27, 2008

I think dating dating a friends ex or an exz friend really goes to show persons true colours...says alot about that persons "personality"...more like lack of personality and how trashy a "friend" truly is...i think that if a friend were to do this kinda they are seriously lacking respect morals loyalty values in their personal lives and as human being.Theres way to many people is this world to claim that youve made an amazing connection and have the best chemistry with the friends ex or the exz friend.what a cop out get some brains and find your own .. a true friend would never do this type of thing...if a freind of mine ever did anything like this to me ...they'd get a good a** kickin then id kickem to the crub with the rest of the trash xxx btw...sup with people posting all annonomys get a back bone chickensh**s

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33. Posted by on Tue, May 27, 2008

In my opinion it's tacky to go out with an ex. My ex husband and my ex girlfriend ended up as an item. It was okay for me as I had moved on, but they didn't last long as my ex husband was only interested in being close to me in his bizarre thinking and she couldn't compete with that. Tacky tacky... She even turned to me for advice on their relationship...Anyways interesting! Now for another stepping over the line...What do you say about this one: my son-in-law and daughter-in-law? Now that is tacky tacky tacky. The sorry thing is they broke up two homes and really have no moral feelings about this. The worst is...I still have them around as there is a grandchild involved. Guess they really wanted me in the picture afterall...as they have something in common now...both will always have me as their ex-mother-in-law. Tacky Tacky. Now that is food for thought...I just don't get it...with all the people in the world why are some still after a loved one or ex or someone too close. A little advice...keep some moral responsibility as we adults set standards for the young ones. Can it be that difficult? Cheers

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34. Posted by letsexhot on Tue, May 27, 2008

Date with frnds frnds no way, is not worth jeopardizing frndsp...i love my frnds is not only SEX....

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35. Posted by blurb1976 on Tue, May 27, 2008

It will lead to problems. Yes, all is fair in love and war. But if it's fair for one of my friends to date my ex, then its fair for me to knock his teeth down his throat. If you do it then you must be prepared for whatever the results may be.

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36. Posted by Little Tashy on Tue, May 27, 2008

I have been witness to a similar drama amongst my circle of people and it sucks. Not only considering that I live in a town where everyone knows what color underwear you're wearing even if you're not wearing any underwear... These things happen, they suck but only the person hooking up with the best friend's girl or guy and that girl/guy are the ones who have to live with themselves

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37. Posted by J on Tue, May 27, 2008

I always said i would neeever date my friends ex's. Cuz in the back of my head would always be "did you do this with her?" "was she better at this or that then me?" But as of today I had an ex of a gf of mine message me wanting to go out for drinks, we all worked together and hung out a few times in the past, but all work related.. Shes not my best friend or anything and its not like they were gonna get married or anything.. so I dont see the problem? IF it was one of my close gf's long term bf's then thats different, but i never even knew these two were dating till someone told me when it ended. So in this case, i think it would be alright to go out with the guy on a one on one thing, whos to say it would even turn into anything?

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38. Posted by Dead butD on Tue, May 27, 2008

I am HAPPILY married to a friend of TWO ex's from years before. Still good friends with both exes, so obviously not nasty break ups. Both exes have families and all is water under the bridge (so far as they've let on I suppose) SO JUST FOLLOW YOUR HEART!!!

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39. Posted by Rebecca P on Tue, May 27, 2008

its really bad taste to date your friends ex. no matter what, she/ he is your best friend and you want to keep it that way.

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40. Posted by k f on Wed, May 28, 2008

LMAO I know I wouldnt do it, but a few of my buddies did it to me when I was finished with the girl they dated her afterwards and it didnt bother me one bit. 2 buddies married those woman and are great pple. Love is a strange thing. No-one can stand in the way of it.

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41. Posted by chuck c on Wed, May 28, 2008

that dum if to date your friend ex that wrong , its like you not care your friendship feeling

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42. Posted by valdjoe1 on Wed, May 28, 2008

It's all about principals ,ethics, and self respect. It's a "faux pas" to date your friends girl or boyfriends. What ever happened to respecting your friends?

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43. Posted by RealityCheck on Wed, May 28, 2008

If someone is planning to date a friend's ex, the decent thing to do would be to at least discuss it with the friend first. It all starts with respect....and treating others the way you prefer to be treated. I realize that's harder said than done, but it's worth a shot, isn't it?

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44. Posted by Jahswill M on Wed, May 28, 2008

There are thousands of people on the street awaiting 4 love. Must it be ur friend's ex????. I considered it as a way of axing your your friend's hearth.

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45. Posted by Hi. on Wed, May 28, 2008

Plenty of people to meet that aren't a friends ex. Even thinking of doing such a thing is very distastefull. That said, there are alot of twisted people out there. If any of my friends ever did such a thing, even just come talk about it to see how I feel I'd most likely disown them. Anyone who doesn't react the same way is a coward with zero pride/self esteem. If you care about your friend you would know not to do this. Again - there's plenty of people out there (to make friends or more).

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46. Posted by intensely_passionate4life on Wed, May 28, 2008

Ex's should be considerate of all involved and fish in another pond.... look in another tree not just climb a lower branch. My ex ended up with my sister which is way worse. I had chosen to move on with my life without him just to have him as a brother-in-law!!!!! How do you escape that one? :O Some people need their head's read I think!!!!

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47. Posted by Native Granny on Wed, May 28, 2008

My humble opinion is that if a couple breaks up then both are "open for grabs" so to speak. Some of these comments I find funny...... "second dibs?" DUH! do you young folk ONLY date virgins? Rarely do couples meet, only date each other end up spending the rest of their lives with that one person. I do think it would be somewhat insensitive to jump after your friend's ex immediately after they break up though. All need time to heal from relationship breakups, even if it was a mutual decision.

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48. Posted by canadiangirll on Wed, May 28, 2008

after my ex and i broke up, his long time best friend and i began to have a very close friendship even so that we began to fall for each other.He asked my ex how he felt about it & he seem not to care. i know it may sound very bad & from the article its was the wrong thing to do but after 1 & 8 months we're still going strong. Sometimes maybe you need to date someone,so you can find the one who makes your heart skip a beat.

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49. Posted by canadiangirll on Wed, May 28, 2008

although the article might say that its bad to date a friend's ex. i did the opposite, im dating my ex's best friend. when my ex and i broke up, his friend and i were already really good friends and we just kept on getting closer, so close that we began to fall for each other. he asked my ex if it would be ok for us to date & he absolutly didnt care. So we have for a little under 2 years and still going strong. i mean maybe you need to date to find the one who will make your heart skip a beat.

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50. Posted by Tia on Wed, May 28, 2008

*rotflhao* Sloppy Seconds??? Please! Do you really believe that everyone you date is a virgin??? Someone has probably been there before you. Someone is probably enjoying a relationship with your ex. I feel that to deliberately court a friend's ex to get at the friend takes you out of the friend category. Having the ex court you to get back at the ex makes him/her unworthy of your attention.

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51. Posted by Rebecca Maguire on Wed, May 28, 2008

Well its a good thing im bi or else dating my friends ex's would be weird lol. (They're all guys) But I would totally go for it. Nothin wrongs with dating a buddies ex. I didnt realize there were rules for who you can and cannot date. Some people need to grow up...

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52. Posted by CF on Wed, May 28, 2008

Dating your best friend's ex would be like having sex with your best friend! I love my best friend but not enough to have sex with her. Ew.

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53. Posted by Stephanie on Wed, May 28, 2008

my friend actually encouraged me to date her ex. they were both good friends so she didnt have a problem with me seeing him. as long as you ask your friend for permission to date an ex and they say it is ok, just go for it

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54. Posted by wilsonannlisa on Wed, May 28, 2008

It is not good practise...nobody wins, there may be bad feelings, and usually the friend can never trust you again. friendship gone, and probably new romance won't work either

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55. Posted by samycals on Wed, May 28, 2008

I really think it is an personal descion, I dont believe that you should "chase" or "go after" the ex but, sometimes there are things that you can't control. and a real friend would want your happiness

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56. Posted by EVA A on Wed, May 28, 2008

A friend dated my ex (after an 8yr relationship) even though for yrs I had trusted her with details of our relationship. Surprise, after 3yrs she has dumped him citing all the same reasons I had when I broke up with him! She now doesn't have a boyfriend OR my friendship since they went behind my back and I discovered it on my own. As a friend I feel she should have been honest and told me at the start. Why would you want to date someone who treated your friend badly as well? Now if the pair split up merely because they were not compatible, sure, but at least be a good friend and tell your friend first to see how they feel about it. Boyfriends/girlfriends come and go, friendships are forever if you treat them with respect and decency.

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57. Posted by alldiscombob... on Wed, May 28, 2008

My best friend and my ex slept together. Then they waited to tell me because they were afraid it would 'hurt' me. If they were so concerned why do it at all? I tried for awhile to let it go because they both meant so much to me, but in the end I cut things off with both of them. I hope it was worth it.

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58. Posted by Barb S on Wed, May 28, 2008

Things certainly do get a lot more messy, but I think it all depends on how strong your relationship with your friends really are. I had a relationship with "Paul", and when we broke up, my friend "Stacy" and he started seeing each not long after. It didn't bother me, but I did feel a bit weird when we all went met up together (one bar town). I was afraid that even though she was with him now, she would become paranoid of me, knowing that Paul and I had been involved before. Well, as time wore on, we all stayed friends, until.. DA DA DAA.. I started dating her ex "Nathan" from junior high. Now Stacy's insecurities surfaced. I should mention that by now, Stacy was pregnant and she and Paul were engaged. It was a sudden romance for Nathan and I, and by the end of two weeks, he was pretty much living with me. Stacy did not take this news well, and avoided me and didn't return my calls for about a month. Eventually, she started talking to me again, but things were really strained, and we drifted apart. Nathan and I also broke up about seven months down the road (although I must say, I have more stories about him and our on-off-on-off, etc. relationship). Stacy and Paul were married and now have several children. We have since put things behind us, though it took a few years to grow up a bit (these events took place around our 20-21 years, we are noow 26 :P). We still get together and are good friends. We still hardly see one another, because I am very busy in my wonderful career, currently single and taking advantage of being so ;), and Stacy is a married mother of five (can you believe that?!) and is pretty much busy every second of every day. I know everyone has different experiences and outcomes, and I just felt like sharing mine. Sorry for the super long post, lol.

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59. Posted by lizhewitt on Wed, May 28, 2008

I think it's in very poor taste to date a friend's ex. Years ago I was dating a guy and we were having problems. A "friend" who also knew him socially talked through things with me. Things were strained and we took a break and I went on vacation. When I got back 3 weeks later, they were dating. I was not impressed.

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60. Posted by † nvr on Wed, May 28, 2008

I would never date a friends ex. I believe thats a line that you just don't cross!!

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