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  • Can guys explain this to me?

    Singles & Dating - 5 hours ago

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    Why do some guys, not all of course, feel threatened by a girl and see her as competition rather than someone he should care for and respect.Usually they are nice and respectful at first and some guys stay that way but some guys feel they have something to prove and start to play up. I get that girls do this too, but i'm interested in why there are some guys who do this. Is it a power struggle? If its a woman that they feel no control with? she threatens his ego in some way? I get that it depends on the type of women, soe can be loud brash and yell "I'm a strong woman!"- those women are usually weak and also have something to prove. I'm just talking about normal mature level headed girls.
  • Should I forgive my best friend?

    Friends - 5 hours ago

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    My best friend of twenty odd years decided to send me a email the other day commenting on my grammar and said that my English was very bad. I had made a comment about a person in a picture and she picked me up on it, saying how, it was only a simple grammar mistake but that I should improve my english. I took this very badly, and probably replied in haste with a few horrible comments, she then said she knew I would act this way, but what I cant understand is, if she knew I would act this way, why would she do or such a thing. She has apologised but when she does it doesn't seem very sincere because she then comes back with, I was doing you a favour by pointing out your english errors, Im sorry you feel this way but......etc etc. I ended up texting her and apologising , saying I probably overreacted but she then left my 16 hours to stew, thinking that it was all my fault...again what friend does this? Im seriously stressed and upset about the whole situation, we have been best friends for years and it came out of nowhere, do you think I should forgive her and move on or would you end the friendship?? I'd really appreciate your advice peeps .
  • Did she break up with me or was it me?

    Singles & Dating - 5 hours ago

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    A few weeks ago she asked whether I was happy with her and if I wanted to continue the realtionship given she felt I still liked my ex. Two weeks later I broke up with her saying that I didnt think there was any future for us. Not because of the ex, but because we were not the right match. She agreed. A few weeks after when I called her she asked that I stop contacting her because she had found the the emails I had sent to my ex during our relationship. I had written how much I loved my ex and thought of her and how little my current gf meant. I was definetly embarrased, but still dont think we belong together. My question really is....was it me or did she break up..or was it mutual?
  • How do I stop being sceptical about guys?

    Singles & Dating - 5 hours ago

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    I dumped my ex for being a sleaze. He was just into sex and was quite disrespectful so I dumped his ass pretty quickly. However there is this new guy who is everything I could want. He is reserved, intellectual, gorgeous well mannered refined and gentlemanly. He seems shy and stares at me a lot, his face lights up when we catch eyes and he holds my gaze and smiles at me. I really want to talk to him but part of me feels angry that he is showing me he thinks i'm attractive. because of my ex i'm wary of being seen as a sex object. I don't advertise myself as one i'm shy, dignified, quiet, bookish and dress modestly. How can I appreciate the fact that a guy actually seems to like me? I can assure you forlorn hope that it was only me who was mature. This guy was the biggest creep you could meet.
  • How do you know if your bf wants to kiss you?

    Singles & Dating - 7 hours ago

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    Me and my bf have been going out for about 2 and a half months. I think that's pretty good. I want to kiss him and im pretty sure that he wants to kiss me because I heard him say to my friend that the reason he came over by us on the playground is because his friend dared him to kiss me. my friend just gave the oh look to him. Please help! Some tips please and I don't want to have sex with him so please don't leave those comments. I just want a cheek kiss. I'm in 6th grade. :) He really lives me. Like what times would be good to cheek kiss at school?
  • Should I giver Her A Chance?

    Singles & Dating - 7 hours ago

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    its ben 3 years already, n i finally got an answer from the gurl i loved since those years. and her answer is idk. i try to talk with her on the fone but she ignores me most of the time. even if i tol her how i felt she still makes me feel like she doesnt want me. she usd to be so innocenet but since times past idk if shes the same one. anyways after i told her how i felt i suddenly changed how i fekt. like i dont even love her as i did.. now this girl asked me out two days ago and i said idk, should i give her the chance because she seems so nice and cute
  • Why does physical beauty matter so much? Is that what you think is going to make your relationship last?

    Singles & Dating - 7 hours ago

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    I have never really understood this. It has never mattered to me. So please explain: Why, when it makes no difference to the longevity or quality of your relationship, is physical appearance so important to so many people?
  • Why does she have sex all the time and shes only 13?

    Other - Family & Relationships - 7 hours ago

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    am 14 and i have this friend that is about 13 i knew her since like 4 years now and shes always been a nice helpfull person when we got to our secondary school at the end of year seven she started having fights at school and at the start of year 9 she told me she had sex with this random person and now she does it all the time. Yesterday i spoke to her and she was like ohh you know that guy from our year i had it with him. So all im wondering about is why does she do it and does she think it makes her seem cooler ?? Its maybe because she lives in a bad area or that she has 16 brothers and sisters and she is trying to have her own life without them i dont know what to think ???
  • Is it appropriate for friends with benefits to discuss their other sex partners?

    Singles & Dating - 8 hours ago

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    I once had a fwb setup a while back. The guy was freakin gorgeous, but I would never date him exclusively. He was very affectionate and loved to cuddle. Anyway one day we decided to meet up for some sexy time. However, I had not seen him two months due to our hectic work schedules. Anyway, out of the blue he asked me had a been with anybody since we last had sex. My answer was yes. The look on his face was priceless. He asked me like a zillion questions about the guy. Then asked me did I sleep with him again and my answer was no. His reply was well he just probably used u for sex. I told him well that was my intentions as well. Then he started telling me about other girls he had met since we had last seen each other. I gave him two thumbs up!LOL. But the weird thing as after we left eachother, he didn't give me the passionate kisses he usually gives me when we departed.
  • What to put on a GOODBYE card?

    Friends - 8 hours ago

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    this girl is moving and i just wanted to make a little farewell card... I am not sure what to put on the OUTSIDE (in big letters, not inside the card) because i am not like her very good friend (so i dont want to be like I LOVE YOU) but i dont just want to say goodbye because it seems kinda mean. what should I put?

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The greening of sex

Posted Tue, May 20, 2008
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Green is the new black. And, in these days of "inconvenient truths," even our sex lives can use a little environmental consciousness.

Personally, I'm a big fan of sex and the environment, or more specifically, in the environment. Nothing feels quite as fantastic as doing it in the great outdoors with the sun beaming down on your naked bodies. Except maybe doing it outdoors on a warm summer night under the flattering light of a full moon or a romantic starlit backdrop.

Maybe it's just in my Dutch blood. According to ananova.com, outdoor sex is so hot in Holland, Dutch Rangers are growing stinging nettles and thistles to stop all the outdoor sex, even full-on orgies, going on in national parks, picnic areas and other public places.

But outdoor sex can leave an impact.

That lovely patch of field may look inviting, but, according to gorp.com, an outdoor recreation resource site, all that rolling around can lead to crushed ground cover and compacted soil. Instead, they suggest, find yourself a nice bed of duff, the dense layer of decayed leaves and pine needles on the forest floor, as it restores itself more easily.

Beware of your sex noise pollution, too, they add: "Yells and moans carry over open water and across meadows but will disperse quickly among trees."

And while I also understand the appeal of jumping butt naked into a lake or river after getting all hot and sweaty with your sweetie, forgo the soap. Even phosphate-free or biodegradable soap is harmful to natural water sources.

Needless to say, tissues, condoms or any other sex trash should never be left behind. Not only is it gross to stumble across a used condom on that wonderful family hike, animals can swallow or even become entangled in them. As with camping, if you packed it in, pack it out.

Environmental consciousness isn't just about having good, clean sex outside. As we all become more aware of the things we put into our bodies, it makes sense to think about ALL the things we put into our bodies. Like sex toys.

According to Toronto-based sex shop Come As You Are, the sex toy industry is getting wise to this, pledging to stop producing sex toys containing phthalates (a potentially toxic chemical added to jelly rubber toys) in the coming years.

While this may be more marketing strategy than genuine concern, says a recent CAYA press release on the topic, it's still good news for health and environmentally conscious consumers.

Of course, says CAYA, there are plenty of smaller, sex-positive manufacturers who've been on the environmental sex toy case for years (CAYA itself has been quietly introducing environmentally conscious products for the past five years) and genuinely care about the pleasure and health of their customers. They also favour manufacturers who provide fair wages for their workers and use manufacturing processes that have less negative environmental impact.

Here are some tips from CAYA to help you make socially and environmentally responsible sex toy purchases:

  • Avoid phthalates and latex. As latex allergies become more common and concerns over the environmental and health impact of phthalates have emerged, toys made of non-latex, phthalate-free silicone and elastomer are your best bet. But beware — a toy doesn't have to be 100% silicone to be labeled ?silicone.' Ask before buying.
  • Avoid parabens. Often contained in lubes. Like phthalates, the jury is still out on their impact on humans, but you can avoid them by simply reading the ingredients. Look for Canadian-made and organically sourced, preservative-free massage oils and lubricants.
  • Switch to rechargeable batteries or buy plug-in vibrators.
  • Go animal free. Come As You Are sells Glyde, the only Vegan condom, as well as a line of Vegan restraints and harnesses.

Follow this advice and sex will feel good, in a whole new way.

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  • 1. Posted by Dave on Fri, May 23, 2008

    I agree with the concept, but lets start with the real problems first like driving an SUV, or not recycling. Lets not take away focus on our pleasurable personal moments. We all know these are few and far between

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  • 2. Posted by nvjrt on Fri, May 23, 2008

    "Dutch Rangers are growing stinging nettles and thistles to stop all the outdoor sex, even full-on orgies, going on in national parks, picnic areas and other public places" WHAT?? I am from Holland, believe me I have never heard of this. Weird article.

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  • 3. Posted by Alina on Sat, May 24, 2008

    I don't see why you are all so upset, I'm quite sure the article is meant to be a little ridiculous. You can practically hear the sarcasm in the first half about sex in the outdoors (or perhaps I am just hypersensitive to sarcasm?). I think the last part has some good points though; why not have products that are toxin- and latex-free? Just because most of us probably don't use a lot of these products on a regular basis doesn't mean we don't use them at all, and it's important to make even the small changes in our lives to help protect the environment.

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  • 4. Posted by Snarky on Sat, May 24, 2008

    Hi Josey, I have come across condoms on the beach, some of these idiots need to clean their act up. Say may I come over & help you mess your bedroom up a bit? You seem to be my kind of girl.

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  • 5. Posted by marigona1000 on Sat, May 24, 2008

    You are the best

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  • 6. Posted by dozertank on Sat, May 24, 2008

    mmmm...the last thing I would be worried about would be if the grass was a little flattened...LOL...I'd think it would be terribly embarrassing to be caught and be charged with indecent exposure and committing a lewd act... :)

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  • 7. Posted by lesliebeaven on Sat, May 24, 2008

    If someone has an orgasm in the forest does any one hear, or for that matter really care? Enjoy the great outdoors and great sexual explorations, but just remember not to take ourselves too seriously sometimes. I mean really!

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  • 8. Posted by nuwrldman on Sat, May 24, 2008

    Great article! Thanks Josey, not only are you smart and sexy but also responsible and concerned about your impact on the planet. I think that is (and you are) incredibly hot! Every little bit counts and every little bit more that we can do to be more green offsets for the nay-sayers and deny-ers of what is clearly a global issue. This (still) patriarchal, puritan and consumer driven wasteful society we live in is changing very slowly, but it is changing. I'm hoping we don't leave an insurmountable mess for the next generation. I wish there were more like you!

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