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  • Facebook photos, do you think I am ugly, average or pretty?

    Singles & Dating - 5 hours ago

  • YIKES!!! Should I continue to date him or not?

    Singles & Dating - 5 hours ago

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    He shouts and gets angry for the slightest thing. He is very intolerant. He wants me to send him loving messages all the time, I do but not too many as we have only been dating 6 weeks. I want to take it slowly as I have been hurt before. I bought him presents (perfume, an easter egg, shirts). Sometimes he cancels dates but wants me to be available all the time when it suits him. Once did not show up at all and never called me. He went off for the weekend with his friends witout telling me and had his phone switched off. I was waiting at home for his call. He never apologised but ended up shouting at me that I worried his brother as I phoned his brother asking where he was and his brother didn't know. Yet, he wants me to be available for him when it suits him and gets angry when I am not. He gets angry easily for little things and has a temper. So I am not really sure he is a great guy .... He has no education and works in a factory and ever second week works on the night shift. I am studying for my Masters. His last girlfriends were vulgar and uneducated, one worked as a stripper. He used to work as a stripper. He is jealous and controlling and told him that I don't need to see my friends much any more. The first night we slept together he took me to a hotel. I dont know why he didnt take me back to his place. Ive been there since. I told him that I had been hurt in the past and that I wanted to take it slowly. He shouted and got angry and said "Everyone has been hurt in the past. Just get over it" He is not understanding but expects me to be understanding and caring towards him. Another time he got really angry because I asked to change bars and go to the bar next door as there were no seats at the bar we were at. Once when we slept together I went to the bathroom to get condoms. Three days later he brought it up in an angry voice that I destroyed the romantic moment by going to the bathroom to get condoms. Another time we arranged a blind date between my friend and his best friend and he got all angry and said "why would he phone her again as she won't sleep wth him, she is just looking for friendship" and was even shouting. SHOULD I CONTINUE TO DATE HIM? WOULD MANY WOMEN TOLERATE THIS KIND OF BEHAVIOUR? He also told me that I talk too much about my friends and their lives and that I should only talk about me and him and our future together. Also, some of his friends occassionally go with prostitutes even though they are married.
  • Should I do this or not? Or how to make him feel "gutted"?

    Singles & Dating - 6 hours ago

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    this guy hurt me in some way. he was always saying how much he "likes" me, he was telling me things like "your the one ... we've got so much in common... we need to go out ..." etc. at the time, when he was asking me out, I wasn't sure it was a good idea (I didn't know him that much, he was showing his interest, which turned out to be lie) so I said "maybe not now, maybe later". after this he stopped talking to me, I was so mad at him - he was ignoring me all week, and then - thanks to facebook - I found out that all this time he was adding my girlfriends to his friends list! and more - once my bro caught him during his date with one of my friends! luckily this girl didn't know that it was my bro and that this lier and hypocrite was asking me out as well. I was so mad at him. and the ugliest part of this story is that when he sees me in uni, he starts flirting! can you believe it? oh gosh I want to do something to make him feel miserable, angry and furious! I had this little plan, but I'm not sure it's good enough - I'll delete him from my friends list and then I'll send him msg like "sorry, my boyfriend didn't want you in my friends list" hah! how good/bad is that? or maybe you can suggest something else? he hurts girls' hearts, now it's time to make him feel that way! [evil laugh]. or maybe it's better just to ignore him? I'm confused.
  • Why do I feel like this... 10 points for best answer?

    Singles & Dating - 7 hours ago

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    I already asked this question in mental health section, but i didn't get the respond I need so i posted here in this section 'cause I so in need for a good answer... Few days ago my sweet boyfriend (he's the first man in my life) that I love and trust blindly hurt me when we were talking about his book that going to be published soon and he admitted that used his writing talent from the start to make me love him only because I’ve never been touched by any man before and never been in love so he wanted to be the first and he said it exactly like this: " I wanted to make love to you because I knew if I would be the first man inside you that there would never be another man to ever get your love" I haven't showed him and sign of pain or anger or anything, I pretended everything is good and I’m ok with what he said but I spent two days crying and feeling so much pain and lonely thinking about the big fake fairy tale I was living. And then things wont worst yesterday when some guy I used to like very much called me after long time never heard from him, I thought everything going to be great with his call and he can make me feel better after my big disappointed with my bf. But the shock was that he didn’t even recognize me and said he only called because he found my number in his cell phone so he called to know whose number is this. I felt it right in my stomach like a stab that deep pain but I swallowed my tears and said like it doesn't matter who am I then hanged up the phone. I felt like crying but couldn’t drop a tear maybe one hour later I dropped some tears then nothing just went to the kitchen and have a late dinner which I don’t usually then went to bed… And when I woke up this morning I started to have this weird feelings or better say I have no feelings at all... I felt like nothing happened at all in the past few days I am not happy or even sad nothing at all. My mother yelled at me and insulted me because of something I told and didn't feel bad for it and didn't even got bothered with her words. And I watched this poor sick child with cancer on the TV and it was normal to me I didn’t felt pain for him. I tried to do my exercise but I couldn’t and thought like: what for? I tried to listen to some music but couldn’t feel the rhythm, I tried to pray but I couldn’t reach to the spiritual level in the prays and also tried to write about my failure relationship and some poetries but felt like there’s nothing to write about. I truly don’t know what’s wrong with me! Even when I am writing these words I don't feel like real worry I don’t' know how to describe it exactly but I only wonder why am I like this and how did I reach this level. So please would any body tell me what’s really going with me? Anything would help really. Most appreciated
  • What kind of face book friend do u like? i need friends to improve my English knowledge add me?

    Friends - 8 hours ago

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    What kind of face book friend do u like? i need friends to improve my English knowledge add me? i`m wimukthi ...20 year old boy from sri lanka.i like to have more fb friends all around the world .. i l`like english people,franch,german,australian,canadion… kivis(new zealand),south african,philippin,italion,..............… please add if u know english well ,i need friends to improve my english knowledge..... if u think i`m a good friend 4 u please add me a request..please search me----wimukthi vivechaka herath or http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100000091101546#/wimukthi.v.herath?ref=profile
  • how to stop being obsessed with the jonas brothers?i feel depressed because i am never going to meet them?

    Singles & Dating - 8 hours ago

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  • I'm worried that I'll never get married, advice?

    Marriage & Divorce - 8 hours ago

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    Now I'm sure this sounds silly since I've just turned 18 a few months ago, but I'm really worried that I'll never find the right guy and get married. I've only had 2 boyfriends, neither very serious and 1 guy where we were kinda dating but it was never official. I'm still a virgin, not really in a rush about losing it though and it's not that I'm ugly, I'm just average but a little chunky (definitely not fat though). My mom keeps telling me I'll meet someone at college when I start in the spring but I don't think I will, I'm just so shy. My biggest fear right now is that I won't get married and I'll be alone forever. I was just at a wedding on saturday which really got me thinking about all of this, and now it's all I think about. Do you think I'll ever find someone?
  • Is this ok revenge for my bf? What to do?!?

    Friends - 9 hours ago

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    Today i missed my flight and had to spend $150 for a ticket tmrw. It was absolutely my bf's fault I missed it. He knows it. Earlier today I splurged on sexy lingerie and outfits to wear for him. I have to return it bc now I can't afford it(since I had to spend $150+ on the ticket). Should I take a pic of it on--not showing my face--and send it to him saying "u caused urself to miss out on this..." I'm really upset I'm out like $170 bucks(now can't pay my electric bill) bc my bf wanted to have sex before taking me to the airport. Once I saw the time I was anxious and not enjoying it but he had to be selfish & come....ugh I'm sooooooooo mad at him n feel like he should pay me the $150 how can I get back at him?
  • i have a question how do i look to you guys?

    Singles & Dating - 9 hours ago

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    go to www.myspace.com/cinthiagonzalez93
  • I NEED TO KNOW WHAT EVERYONE THINKS about this.?

    Singles & Dating - 10 hours ago

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    Please more responses the better. I need to know what people think... Not the best pictures but.. http://i817.photobucket.com/albums/zz92/clumzo/asfdafddsf.jpg http://i817.photobucket.com/albums/zz92/clumzo/fafadsfasdfas.jpg These pictures arent of me btw http://i817.photobucket.com/albums/zz92/clumzo/l_295ae6ca5f1c4630b214de4631539610.jpg
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Ghost students busted: Does spying belong in the classroom?

Posted Fri, May 29, 2009
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Your college-aged daughter is required to do some of her course work online. A couple of times each week, she logs on to the course website to catch up on lecture notes and engage in chat sessions with her classmates and the two ghost students who are being paid by her professor to gather information about your daughter and her classmates. (Yes, ghost students.)

Educators are always looking for new ways to evaluate online learners, but does planting ghost students in the online classroom cross the line, ethically speaking?

That issue has become the subject of much debate this week, ever since The Chronicle of Higher Education reported that academics in Indiana, Connecticut, and South Africa have started to pose as students to gather information about their real students.

Critics of the practice point out that the process causes students to lose trust in their course instructors. "What other sneaky tricks do you still have to admit responsibility for?" one student asked after finding out about the ghost students.

Fans of the technique argue that ghost students can jump-start conversations, monitor student discussions, and make learning more interactive, thereby helping to reduce drop-out rates.
It puts into question the trusting and respectful relationship that has to be developed between teacher and student. And if you betray that trust, and you in effect set up an espionage system, then how on earth are you going to have meaningful, deep, authentic discussions?

In situations like this, I always ask myself how I'd feel in a similar situation, say if an employer hired ghost employees to keep tabs on me.

My verdict? Definitely not cool.

So what's your take on this online teaching method? Do you think its ethical for teachers to pretend to be students? How do you think your child would react if he or she found out after the fact that one of his or her classmates was actually a teacher?

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  • 1. Posted by Carlsberg on Mon, Jun 01, 2009

    That IS disturbing, and pretty lousy. I can't understand why my instructor can't just ASK me how I'm enjoying my online courses. Better yet; how about paying actual TUTORS/TEACHER AIDES to actually speak to the students one on one instead of this closed door garbage. This whole 'undercover' deal reminds me of the saying 'one lie spoils a thousand truths'.

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  • 2. Posted by tarzanswife2001 on Mon, Jun 01, 2009

    if you are in school ,no matter what format, why are you surprised there are teachers present.

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  • 3. Posted by lilgerdie on Tue, Jun 02, 2009

    Teaching Assistants and Graduate Assistants are the bridge between the professor and student, I agree with Carlsberg's comment. In tutorials questions arise, interest in course material is voiced. It may be too late but at the end of the course there are Teacher Evaluations where students are asked a series of questions, and some evaluations ask questions regarding student interest in course material, how effective the professor was with material etc. Ghost Students used to direct online discussions are not a good idea. If the students in the course do not grasp concepts enough to come up with related discussions online, that is an indicator the course material and lessons are not coming across correctly. That would give the profs/teachers an opportunity to discuss the material/explain it in the classroom. As for work that would be annonying and creepy to discover you have fake co-workers whose sole job is to spy on you and report to your boss!

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  • 4. Posted by Brian and Brenda Joyce on Tue, Jun 02, 2009

    Any form of deception is completely unfair and seriously wrong. This kind of interaction can just as well be done by our school's policy of "peer guides", other students who volunteer to assist younger students. They're not online, but could easily be as a board moderator or advisor.

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  • 5. Posted by noeffects83 on Tue, Jun 02, 2009

    its actually quite simple. its a good thing for 2 reasons. some students are too shy to ask for help. the ghost student can find out a student needs help and can report to the prof and get them the help. and 2 whats wrong with more teachers? more people who can help is always a good thing. if you're on a boat that has 300 crew members and 700 passengers and for some reason the boat starts sinking, would you feel "betrayed" to find out that 50 of the 700 passengers were actually crew members and those crew members helped save you from drowning? there is NO debate on this matter. unless the spying goes further than the classroom; if they start stalking you and reporting when you eat dinner and watching you sleep etc. or even if they start collecting personal information then thats different. but if its nothing personal then why is it a bad thing? lilgerdie: you are correct and very incorrect. "If the students in the course do not grasp concepts enough to come up with related discussions online, that is an indicator the course material and lessons are not coming across correctly." that statement is correct. you are, however, incorrect because the ghost students will help the real students learn. who cares if a teacher is pretending to be a student? they're still a teacher regardless so i dont see why this issue matters. Carlsberg: do you know HOW many students are dishonest to teachers? this method gives raw feedback on how students are actually enjoying/learning in the class.

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