Lifestyle questions and answers

Ask a question on any topic and get answers from real people on Yahoo! Canada Answers

  • Why do I feel like this... 10 points for best answer?

    Singles & Dating - 5 hours ago

    Additional Details

    I already asked this question in mental health section, but i didn't get the respond I need so i posted here in this section 'cause I so in need for a good answer... Few days ago my sweet boyfriend (he's the first man in my life) that I love and trust blindly hurt me when we were talking about his book that going to be published soon and he admitted that used his writing talent from the start to make me love him only because I’ve never been touched by any man before and never been in love so he wanted to be the first and he said it exactly like this: " I wanted to make love to you because I knew if I would be the first man inside you that there would never be another man to ever get your love" I haven't showed him and sign of pain or anger or anything, I pretended everything is good and I’m ok with what he said but I spent two days crying and feeling so much pain and lonely thinking about the big fake fairy tale I was living. And then things wont worst yesterday when some guy I used to like very much called me after long time never heard from him, I thought everything going to be great with his call and he can make me feel better after my big disappointed with my bf. But the shock was that he didn’t even recognize me and said he only called because he found my number in his cell phone so he called to know whose number is this. I felt it right in my stomach like a stab that deep pain but I swallowed my tears and said like it doesn't matter who am I then hanged up the phone. I felt like crying but couldn’t drop a tear maybe one hour later I dropped some tears then nothing just went to the kitchen and have a late dinner which I don’t usually then went to bed… And when I woke up this morning I started to have this weird feelings or better say I have no feelings at all... I felt like nothing happened at all in the past few days I am not happy or even sad nothing at all. My mother yelled at me and insulted me because of something I told and didn't feel bad for it and didn't even got bothered with her words. And I watched this poor sick child with cancer on the TV and it was normal to me I didn’t felt pain for him. I tried to do my exercise but I couldn’t and thought like: what for? I tried to listen to some music but couldn’t feel the rhythm, I tried to pray but I couldn’t reach to the spiritual level in the prays and also tried to write about my failure relationship and some poetries but felt like there’s nothing to write about. I truly don’t know what’s wrong with me! Even when I am writing these words I don't feel like real worry I don’t' know how to describe it exactly but I only wonder why am I like this and how did I reach this level. So please would any body tell me what’s really going with me? Anything would help really. Most appreciated
  • What kind of face book friend do u like? i need friends to improve my English knowledge add me?

    Friends - 6 hours ago

    Additional Details

    What kind of face book friend do u like? i need friends to improve my English knowledge add me? i`m wimukthi ...20 year old boy from sri lanka.i like to have more fb friends all around the world .. i l`like english people,franch,german,australian,canadion… kivis(new zealand),south african,philippin,italion,..............… please add if u know english well ,i need friends to improve my english knowledge..... if u think i`m a good friend 4 u please add me a request..please search me----wimukthi vivechaka herath or http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100000091101546#/wimukthi.v.herath?ref=profile
  • Fiance/Future Mother In Law help. Advice needed. 10 points!!?

    Singles & Dating - 7 hours ago

    Additional Details

    1. My FH proposed to me on December 30, 2008 after dating for a year, and knowing each other for 2. We don't live together, however, we either stay at my house or his house every night. He's my best friend and my biggest supporter, but there is a few things that REALLY bother me. 2. His mother had him very young, at 18. She married his dad at 18 as well, and they have been happily married for 22 years now. His mom had taken me in and made me feel like part of the family. We went shopping, have gone to get our nails done, text messaged me daily etc, I figured all was well, and she treated me so sweetly, even telling people how much she loved me.It made me feel wonderful!! 3. Flash forward to December 30th, after the proposal that she knew was going to happen (he told her 2 months prior that he was going to do it). We set a date for May 22, 2010, start looking at venues and my family invites everyone to our engagement party. 4.I invite his mom to go to a local bridal show with me and she gives me an excuse as to why she can't go. That's fine, I understand, things happen, no biggie. One night when I was in night class in February, my FH text me and told me that we needed to talk.So we talk. What about? His mother tells him that he's not getting married with a year of school left. (He's 22, I'm 20. For the May 22nd wedding, he would be 23).and insists that we don't want to be broke and such. After pouting for a little bit about having to push the wedding back, I agreed that it would be better to wait until one of us gets out of school. 5. In October this year, I go to his family reunion, and am bombarded by questions, like "when did you get engaged? When is the date set for?" His mother chimes in and says, "OH, it will be a VERY LONG engagement because I'm not going to let my son throw away his college years and get married so young like I did, and your kids did," WOW, talk about a slap in the face from someone that acted like my best friend. I saw on facebook that my FH had accepted his mom's boss' friend request (they pay for his school). and she commented, "Engaged? Your mom never told me this!! When did this happen?" Also, his mom has been talking to his ex on facebook. I know this is an informal was of communication, but supposedly his mom "hated this girl with a passion because of the way she treated his son by cheating on him and being disrespectful to the entire family." So why would she be talking to this girl? I try not to let it bother me, but that also feels like a slap in the face. I feel like she is ashamed that her son is engaged to me. 6. Months pass without setting a new date. His graduation will be May 2011, and mine will be December 2011, so I suggest a late May date, exactly a year past what it originally was. He says "we will discuss it towards the end of the year." Guess what? It's the end of the year. I'm tired of waiting. I would love to know when I can expect to walk down the aisle. He says he can't wait to marry me, but I know his mother's opinion is harboring him.He's 23 today for crying out loud. He's a grown man, and we make decent money, and will both have college degrees within the next year/year in a half around the time a potential date could be set. It just hurts to spend so much time with someone you love so much, and put so much in, but he won't give an exact date on what's good for him. It also makes me feel so low on the actions his mother has shown towards me in the past several months, as I have shown her nothing but kindness and respect. I KNOW she controls him, they talk 15 times a day on the phone, and she can't seem to cut the cord. I tell him that this whole ordeal about the things she has done to humiliate me, and he says, don't worry, she likes you and accepts you. But guess what, I don't feel that reciprocated. I feel like I will always be last pick to his mother. Even though he assures me that he loves me and can't wait to spend the rest of his life with me, I feel like the cord will never be cut, and that I will end up marrying his mom as well. I know she doesn't want him to make the same mistakes that she did, but I'm not 18, neither is he, we almost have our degrees, have decent financial stability, and I'm NOT getting married because I'm pregnant. We're totally opposites, so why does she think that marrying me would make him "throw away his life?" She told me I was the best for him before our engagement...wtf...
  • Fiancee is turning into a major pain?!?

    Other - Family & Relationships - 7 hours ago

    Additional Details

    Okay so I'm in my third year of med school while my fiancee has started her residency already. When we got together I made it clear to her that I wont be able to give her a lot of attention while I'm attending med school since this is extremely important to me and my family. She keeps complaining about me never taking her out and studying all the time, when she was the same way while attending med school! She really should be focusing on her residency a lot more than she is too. Not to mention I have to work part time and study a lot, since my field tends to be a little competitive. I think she may also be a little jealous I scored way above her on the USMLE step 1's, since she hasn't been the same ever since she saw my score. What should I do?
  • Should I give this guy a chance or is he just playing me?

    Singles & Dating - 8 hours ago

    Additional Details

    I met this guy through a friend. He lives in a different state and we email back and forth on facebook. It was his turn to email me but he never emailed me back. Before then, we email each other frequently like every three days. Two weeks go by without an email. He ended up 'liking' what I said on my facebook status a few weeks after I never heard from him. So I assumed he still wants to communicate with me so I emailed him again. Its been one week and then I hear from him again. It wouldn't matter but he updates his facebook through his phone and doesn't email me back when I clearly want a response from him. I enjoy getting emails from him. He recently emailed me back and said he was busy with work. He ended up asking me if I'm dating anyone. I told him that I was not dating anyone. Its been one week and he updates his facebook but doesn't email me back on facebook. I mention to him that there were pics of me and some American Idol contestants on tour on my facebook. I got a pic with one singer that I have a crush on and he's cute too. Do you think he got jealous? Why would he ask me if I'm dating anyone and stop communicating with me at the same time? Do you think he is dating anyone and wanted me to ask him if he is dating anyone?
  • A Question For ALL The Women Out There ?

    Singles & Dating - 8 hours ago

    Additional Details

    If I asked her for a date today..and she said yes..but she has a friend with benefit..should I worry if her and I get closer? Or will her feelings for him fade and her like me more if we get along great?
  • All that matters .........?

    Singles & Dating - 9 hours ago

    Additional Details

    If I asked her for a date today..and she said yes..but she has a friend with benefit..should I worry if her and I get closer? Or will her feelings for him fade and her like me more if we get along great? I'm not letting it phase me because we arent together and have only known eachother for 8 days. I want things to get serious with her and I first.
  • My ex threatened to files charges against me with my human resources department?

    Singles & Dating - 9 hours ago

    Additional Details

    I dated her for 8 months and I broke the relationship up several months ago. She was fine with it and never came after me and didn't make a big deal at all at work. (We work in the same company, but in diff building, so we dont work together). I tried to be friends and would show up to say hi every so often. I'd ask her for lunch, but she declined. She never really reciprocated and once I asked for lunch again...she finally said no and asked for me to stop. She told me she had found emails that I had sent to my ex during the relationsh (true) and had no interest in pursuing any kind of relationship with me. She threatened to go to the human resources department if I insisted. I think i made the situation worse by trying to be nice. Am I missing something?
  • Does this girl like me?

    Singles & Dating - 9 hours ago

    Additional Details

    We text every day and she gives me hugs quite often nowadays. We will talk for hours on facebook or texting. Sometimes our conversations get really deep. We goes iceskating with me too. Today however she said we should hang out sometime. I do like her but I like my date to semi more. They both like me but does the girl I described like me as more than a friend? Help!
  • Bridesmaid dress to go with this wedding dress?

    Weddings - 9 hours ago

    Additional Details

    http://www.weddinggowndress.com/wluck-detail.php?id=1632 I'm having a hard time finding a bridesmaid dress to go with this. My bridesmaids dont like very bright colors like yellow, light green, orange, pink, etc and neither do I.

Sex on the beach?

Will a new romance survive the dastardly rigours of the first vacation? Leah Rumack goes all the way to St. Lucia to find out.

Provided by FASHION Magazine

There are certain obstacles every new couple must face eventually—the first time she touches his car stereo, the moment he realizes she actually watches vampire TV shows (what? It’s HBO!).   Then there’s meeting the parents, amalgamating the pets and, of course, battling sharks. “I know what to do,” says Jason, my Gentleman Caller of seven months authoritatively. “I’d punch it in the nose.”

So when the opportunity to take a trip — nay, a vacation — to the posh Jade Mountain in St. Lucia (“the Caribbean’s most romantic resort”) comes up, I pounce. There’s nothing like your first overseas jaunt—minus wi-fi, TV, phones and work ⁄ friend distractions— to test a relationship, to see how you’ll really feel when you find yourself staring into the piercing hazel eyes of the beast for days on end. Besides, it’s our Love and Sex issue. I have the perfect excuse—it’s for work.

“Wow,” says my quickly-receding-into- the-background male best friend. “A resort? You guys really are a couple now.” And it’s true. Having met Jason at 2 a.m., when we bonded over our shared hatred of bad turntable skills, and having been introduced shortly thereafter to his collection of 4,234 rare disco records, 1970s art collection and at-least- 12-year-old Scotch (with my contributions being knowledge of obscure restaurants and a Sunday New York Times subscription), we’re not what you would call warm-weather sorts. Berlin, New York, Tokyo? Done. A beach? Weird. To add some pressurized fuel to the fire, we’ve just made the perhaps rash decision to move in together.

“What if we go on a romantic vacation to test our love and our love fails?!” I wail to my real-estate agent as she guides my hand into a reasonable facsimile of my signature on the sale papers for my loft. “I’ll have to live under my desk!”

<< 1 2 3 >>

Average (3 Ratings)4.50 out of 5 stars

1 Comment

  • 1. Posted by Janice B on Sat, Jul 18, 2009

    There are many issues that face a couple. Personally, a vacation with my "new squeeze" was a romantic, fun-filled, stress-free experience. It's all in the compatability and "chemistry"!! Perhaps, I was very fortunate in meeting the right fellow!! Getting away from the day-today stress of jobs, home-related chores, etc. is the best method of getting to know an individual. I am very much an extrovert and enjoy new places and faces!!

    Report Abuse

LEAVE YOUR COMMENT
character(s) remaining

You must sign in to leave a comment

TODAY ON YAHOO!

Odd News

A first edition of Charles Darwin's groundbreaking Origin Of Species. (THE ASSOCIATED PRESS /Christie's, ho)


The Origin of Thievery? UK says crooks took Charles Darwin's cherished leather-bound journal
The Canadian Press - LONDON - British authorities say they're searching for a leather-bound...

Entertainment

27 years after 'Gandhi,' Kingsley to play Mogul emperor who built Taj Mahal
The Canadian Press - HONG KONG - Ben Kingsley, famous for his Oscar-winning portrayal of Indian...

Sports

Marseille's forward and captain Mamadou Niang takes part in a training session on the eve of their Champions League match against AC Milan at San Siro Stadium in Milan. AC Milan can secure qualification to the Champions League knock-out stages and gain an element of revenge if they beat Marseille.  Photo:Giuseppe Cacace/AFP


Revenge and qualification on the line in Milan
AFP - MILAN, Italy (AFP) - AC Milan can secure qualification to the Champions League knock-out...