When was the last time you spent the day getting it on? On average, Canadians are having sex about twice a week, according to the Durex 2004 Global Sex Survey. This is encouraging news, because regular sex with your partner is vital to any healthy happy relationship, says Sue McGarvie, a sex therapist, syndicated radio host and author of Quivering Jello: How to Have Mind-Blowing, Toe Curling Orgasms(Romance Communications). But some of us may only be getting lucky twice a month or even twice a year. Don't panic: "There is no 'normal' level of sexual desire. Every woman is different," says Dr. Vicki Holmes, medical director of the Women's Mid-Life Health Centre in Saskatoon. That said, it can't hurt to take this quiz and find out how to re-ignite your home fires - and keep them blazing.
Choose the phrase that best describes your attitude towards sex:
A. Bring it on! I steal time with my partner whenever I possibly can
B. My libido seems to be on vacation lately
C. I love it, but at the end of the day, sleep wins every time
D. I feel more self-conscious than sexy these days
Have you recently experienced any of the following health changes?
A. overwhelming stress and fatigue
B. pregnancy or recent birth
C. menopausal, peri- and post-menopausal symptoms
D. depression or anxiety
E. none of the above
Your partner asks you to plan an intimate date night. Do you:
A. wish he would sweep you off your feet for once
B. get a sitter, take a bath and prepare for your Prince Charming
C. get excited, but worry about what you're going to wear in bed
D. plead a headache - your interest in sex has dropped off the radar
Your girlfriends are dishing about what gets them in the mood and it's your turn. You:
A. are embarrassed by the details, but intrigued - maybe you'll pick up some pointers
B. dive into your You: Brad Pitt, Me: Jane routine, complete with loincloths
C. have to think far back to the days when one look left you breathless
D. start talking about hot lingerie, but end up complaining about your couch-surfing partner
It's your partner's turn to do the dishes - but he says he's too tired. Do you:
A. argue that you're exhausted, too, but if he washes, you'll dry
B. feel sorry for him - he does so much, you don't deserve him
C. do them yourself, but don't let him forget it
D. leave them until tomorrow and spend some cuddle time on the couch
You and your partner have a child-free half-hour sandwiched between errands after work. You:
A. sit down together and talk about your day
B. do what you always do: start dinner while he starts some laundry
C. sit down for a sec and fall asleep instantly
D. feel shocked - and pleasantly surprised - when things get frisky - it's 5:30 p.m.!
Lately, your partner hasn't been all that interested in sex. Do you feel:
A. confused, but don't know how to approach the issue
B. hurt - he must not find you attractive anymore
C. concerned for his health and eager to help
D. a little relieved - now you can share your issues together
If you answered mostly As or Bs:
Lucky lady
