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  • Facebook photos, do you think I am ugly, average or pretty?

    Singles & Dating - 4 hours ago

  • Have you ever felt like you dont matter?

    Singles & Dating - 4 hours ago

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  • YIKES!!! Should I continue to date him or not?

    Singles & Dating - 5 hours ago

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    He shouts and gets angry for the slightest thing. He is very intolerant. He wants me to send him loving messages all the time, I do but not too many as we have only been dating 6 weeks. I want to take it slowly as I have been hurt before. I bought him presents (perfume, an easter egg, shirts). Sometimes he cancels dates but wants me to be available all the time when it suits him. Once did not show up at all and never called me. He went off for the weekend with his friends witout telling me and had his phone switched off. I was waiting at home for his call. He never apologised but ended up shouting at me that I worried his brother as I phoned his brother asking where he was and his brother didn't know. Yet, he wants me to be available for him when it suits him and gets angry when I am not. He gets angry easily for little things and has a temper. So I am not really sure he is a great guy .... He has no education and works in a factory and ever second week works on the night shift. I am studying for my Masters. His last girlfriends were vulgar and uneducated, one worked as a stripper. He used to work as a stripper. He is jealous and controlling and told him that I don't need to see my friends much any more. The first night we slept together he took me to a hotel. I dont know why he didnt take me back to his place. Ive been there since. I told him that I had been hurt in the past and that I wanted to take it slowly. He shouted and got angry and said "Everyone has been hurt in the past. Just get over it" He is not understanding but expects me to be understanding and caring towards him. Another time he got really angry because I asked to change bars and go to the bar next door as there were no seats at the bar we were at. Once when we slept together I went to the bathroom to get condoms. Three days later he brought it up in an angry voice that I destroyed the romantic moment by going to the bathroom to get condoms. Another time we arranged a blind date between my friend and his best friend and he got all angry and said "why would he phone her again as she won't sleep wth him, she is just looking for friendship" and was even shouting. SHOULD I CONTINUE TO DATE HIM? WOULD MANY WOMEN TOLERATE THIS KIND OF BEHAVIOUR? He also told me that I talk too much about my friends and their lives and that I should only talk about me and him and our future together. Also, some of his friends occassionally go with prostitutes even though they are married.
  • I want MY EYES to stand OUT!! but HOW?

    Singles & Dating - 6 hours ago

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    Me and my Mum want our eyes to stand out but HOW?? my mum has blue eyes.. i have brown eyes.. can u sugget anythink a list of colors of eaither... ?? thanks x what eyeshadow colors ??????????
  • Why do I feel like this... 10 points for best answer?

    Singles & Dating - 6 hours ago

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    I already asked this question in mental health section, but i didn't get the respond I need so i posted here in this section 'cause I so in need for a good answer... Few days ago my sweet boyfriend (he's the first man in my life) that I love and trust blindly hurt me when we were talking about his book that going to be published soon and he admitted that used his writing talent from the start to make me love him only because I’ve never been touched by any man before and never been in love so he wanted to be the first and he said it exactly like this: " I wanted to make love to you because I knew if I would be the first man inside you that there would never be another man to ever get your love" I haven't showed him and sign of pain or anger or anything, I pretended everything is good and I’m ok with what he said but I spent two days crying and feeling so much pain and lonely thinking about the big fake fairy tale I was living. And then things wont worst yesterday when some guy I used to like very much called me after long time never heard from him, I thought everything going to be great with his call and he can make me feel better after my big disappointed with my bf. But the shock was that he didn’t even recognize me and said he only called because he found my number in his cell phone so he called to know whose number is this. I felt it right in my stomach like a stab that deep pain but I swallowed my tears and said like it doesn't matter who am I then hanged up the phone. I felt like crying but couldn’t drop a tear maybe one hour later I dropped some tears then nothing just went to the kitchen and have a late dinner which I don’t usually then went to bed… And when I woke up this morning I started to have this weird feelings or better say I have no feelings at all... I felt like nothing happened at all in the past few days I am not happy or even sad nothing at all. My mother yelled at me and insulted me because of something I told and didn't feel bad for it and didn't even got bothered with her words. And I watched this poor sick child with cancer on the TV and it was normal to me I didn’t felt pain for him. I tried to do my exercise but I couldn’t and thought like: what for? I tried to listen to some music but couldn’t feel the rhythm, I tried to pray but I couldn’t reach to the spiritual level in the prays and also tried to write about my failure relationship and some poetries but felt like there’s nothing to write about. I truly don’t know what’s wrong with me! Even when I am writing these words I don't feel like real worry I don’t' know how to describe it exactly but I only wonder why am I like this and how did I reach this level. So please would any body tell me what’s really going with me? Anything would help really. Most appreciated
  • What kind of face book friend do u like? i need friends to improve my English knowledge add me?

    Friends - 7 hours ago

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    What kind of face book friend do u like? i need friends to improve my English knowledge add me? i`m wimukthi ...20 year old boy from sri lanka.i like to have more fb friends all around the world .. i l`like english people,franch,german,australian,canadion… kivis(new zealand),south african,philippin,italion,..............… please add if u know english well ,i need friends to improve my english knowledge..... if u think i`m a good friend 4 u please add me a request..please search me----wimukthi vivechaka herath or http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100000091101546#/wimukthi.v.herath?ref=profile
  • how to stop being obsessed with the jonas brothers?i feel depressed because i am never going to meet them?

    Singles & Dating - 8 hours ago

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  • I'm worried that I'll never get married, advice?

    Marriage & Divorce - 8 hours ago

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    Now I'm sure this sounds silly since I've just turned 18 a few months ago, but I'm really worried that I'll never find the right guy and get married. I've only had 2 boyfriends, neither very serious and 1 guy where we were kinda dating but it was never official. I'm still a virgin, not really in a rush about losing it though and it's not that I'm ugly, I'm just average but a little chunky (definitely not fat though). My mom keeps telling me I'll meet someone at college when I start in the spring but I don't think I will, I'm just so shy. My biggest fear right now is that I won't get married and I'll be alone forever. I was just at a wedding on saturday which really got me thinking about all of this, and now it's all I think about. Do you think I'll ever find someone?
  • Fiance/Future Mother In Law help. Advice needed. 10 points!!?

    Singles & Dating - 9 hours ago

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    1. My FH proposed to me on December 30, 2008 after dating for a year, and knowing each other for 2. We don't live together, however, we either stay at my house or his house every night. He's my best friend and my biggest supporter, but there is a few things that REALLY bother me. 2. His mother had him very young, at 18. She married his dad at 18 as well, and they have been happily married for 22 years now. His mom had taken me in and made me feel like part of the family. We went shopping, have gone to get our nails done, text messaged me daily etc, I figured all was well, and she treated me so sweetly, even telling people how much she loved me.It made me feel wonderful!! 3. Flash forward to December 30th, after the proposal that she knew was going to happen (he told her 2 months prior that he was going to do it). We set a date for May 22, 2010, start looking at venues and my family invites everyone to our engagement party. 4.I invite his mom to go to a local bridal show with me and she gives me an excuse as to why she can't go. That's fine, I understand, things happen, no biggie. One night when I was in night class in February, my FH text me and told me that we needed to talk.So we talk. What about? His mother tells him that he's not getting married with a year of school left. (He's 22, I'm 20. For the May 22nd wedding, he would be 23).and insists that we don't want to be broke and such. After pouting for a little bit about having to push the wedding back, I agreed that it would be better to wait until one of us gets out of school. 5. In October this year, I go to his family reunion, and am bombarded by questions, like "when did you get engaged? When is the date set for?" His mother chimes in and says, "OH, it will be a VERY LONG engagement because I'm not going to let my son throw away his college years and get married so young like I did, and your kids did," WOW, talk about a slap in the face from someone that acted like my best friend. I saw on facebook that my FH had accepted his mom's boss' friend request (they pay for his school). and she commented, "Engaged? Your mom never told me this!! When did this happen?" Also, his mom has been talking to his ex on facebook. I know this is an informal was of communication, but supposedly his mom "hated this girl with a passion because of the way she treated his son by cheating on him and being disrespectful to the entire family." So why would she be talking to this girl? I try not to let it bother me, but that also feels like a slap in the face. I feel like she is ashamed that her son is engaged to me. 6. Months pass without setting a new date. His graduation will be May 2011, and mine will be December 2011, so I suggest a late May date, exactly a year past what it originally was. He says "we will discuss it towards the end of the year." Guess what? It's the end of the year. I'm tired of waiting. I would love to know when I can expect to walk down the aisle. He says he can't wait to marry me, but I know his mother's opinion is harboring him.He's 23 today for crying out loud. He's a grown man, and we make decent money, and will both have college degrees within the next year/year in a half around the time a potential date could be set. It just hurts to spend so much time with someone you love so much, and put so much in, but he won't give an exact date on what's good for him. It also makes me feel so low on the actions his mother has shown towards me in the past several months, as I have shown her nothing but kindness and respect. I KNOW she controls him, they talk 15 times a day on the phone, and she can't seem to cut the cord. I tell him that this whole ordeal about the things she has done to humiliate me, and he says, don't worry, she likes you and accepts you. But guess what, I don't feel that reciprocated. I feel like I will always be last pick to his mother. Even though he assures me that he loves me and can't wait to spend the rest of his life with me, I feel like the cord will never be cut, and that I will end up marrying his mom as well. I know she doesn't want him to make the same mistakes that she did, but I'm not 18, neither is he, we almost have our degrees, have decent financial stability, and I'm NOT getting married because I'm pregnant. We're totally opposites, so why does she think that marrying me would make him "throw away his life?" She told me I was the best for him before our engagement...wtf...
  • Fiancee is turning into a major pain?!?

    Other - Family & Relationships - 9 hours ago

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    Okay so I'm in my third year of med school while my fiancee has started her residency already. When we got together I made it clear to her that I wont be able to give her a lot of attention while I'm attending med school since this is extremely important to me and my family. She keeps complaining about me never taking her out and studying all the time, when she was the same way while attending med school! She really should be focusing on her residency a lot more than she is too. Not to mention I have to work part time and study a lot, since my field tends to be a little competitive. I think she may also be a little jealous I scored way above her on the USMLE step 1's, since she hasn't been the same ever since she saw my score. What should I do?

Is it possible for parents and kids to have personality clashes? I have more conflicts with my three-year-old than my other three children combined.

Is it possible for parents and kids to have personality clashes? I have more conflicts with my three-year-old than my other three children combined.

By Ann Douglas

Is it possible for parents and kids to have personality clashes? I have more conflicts with my three-year-old than my other three children combined.

The fact that you’re related to another human being doesn’t prevent guarantee perfect harmony 24/7. (If only!) And sometimes we find ourselves in the peculiar position of raising kids who are totally unlike us—at least when it comes to temperament.

So how do you get through that as a parent? Raise Dr. Jekyll when you’re Mr. Hyde—or vice versa?

The secret to parenting a child who is temperamentally your opposite is to accept the fact that those differences exist and to come up with a parenting game plan that plays to your child’s strengths.

If, for example, your three-year-old child is extremely high energy, you may want to -purchase some preschool activity books so that you always have a stockpile of activities in mind for days when your child is desperately seeking a diversion; -learn to read your child’s signals (e.g., spot signs of restlessness so that you’ll know when your child needs a change of environment or activity); -provide regular opportunities for your child to enjoy periods of active play; -ensure that your child is getting adequate sleep (an over-tired child is a wired child).

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