DALLAS - As her husband climbed the corporate ladder, Colette Young noticed that many other executive spouses were looking for advice: What's appropriate to wear to a corporate function? How should they deal with a spouse who's tied to a BlackBerry?
So Young, the wife of 20 years of Dr Pepper Snapple Group chief executive Larry Young, formed a business. As her brochure puts it: "At ExecuMate we strive to help executives be incredibly successful. We believe a supportive, engaged spouse can contribute greatly to that success and ultimately to the overall success of the company, too."
Young's had a handful of speaking engagements since forming ExecuMate last year, touching on points like balancing life and work, attitude and communication. And she's offered one-on-one mentoring to about 10 people, priced from a single session at $300 per hour to ongoing contracts for $15,000 to $20,000.
"As a spouse, the first thing you need to be is accountable for yourself, your home," Young said. "You're like the CEO of your home, even if you both have careers. You just need to be accountable for your emotions and your family and your future."
The advice is for any corporate spouse, and Young says she has counselled some men, though she finds most are still women. Her counsel includes reminding spouses to have a positive attitude about career moves that include relocating, and being understanding when a spouse works long days, comes home exhausted and never puts down their electronic device.
"As a spouse, you can't say 'Put that BlackBerry away.' You have to know part of that life is they're on 24/7," Young said.
To some, advice on how to be a good corporate spouse seems antiquated.
Warren Bennis, a business administration professor at the University of Southern California, said that wives today are likely to have their own careers as well, and their role as corporate spouse will mostly consist of attending a few social functions.
"My reaction is it's a very old-fashioned notion that somehow the CEO and wife are tethered," Bennis said. "I think that today they're more untethered than ever before."
But others say there's a practical side.
Betsy Gelb, a professor in the Bauer College of Business at the University of Houston, said no one would think it was strange to take a class in negotiation or home repair, so why not get some pointers on being married to an executive?
Young says that many corporate spouses do have their own careers, but she wants to remind those who don't to hold on to whatever it is they like to do.
"I really believe they need to know themselves and find their passion. They are not just a wife," said Young, 53, who has bachelor's and master's degrees in music education and postgraduate training in music and counselling.
By the time she married Larry Young at the age of 33, Colette Young had already been teaching school, playing piano and singing at events and had a song-writing business in Missouri. Four years after they were married, his career took them to Poland, then Chicago, Minneapolis and now Dallas.
When she couldn't find a teaching position in Chicago, Young turned her focus to their home's unfinished basement, finding that she enjoyed renovation. The pianist and vocalist has also kept up her music and developed a new love of golf.




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