The new dating deal-breakers

1. Posted by Shaylaina on Fri, Aug 28, 2009

Wonderful article and basic knowledge of what respect and a good person is about. If I only had a dime for each time I've heard a man say "I'm different. You've never met anyone like me before" and then I say, "I've heard that from every man I've known" and then they say "yeah, but this time it's true" I always laugh over this as it's always repeated through out my life over and over. Find someone who loves, respects and cares for you for who you are and knows how to show it.

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2. Posted by Divinity on Fri, Aug 28, 2009

What about the guy who after a year and a half in a relationship starts to tell one ly after another and gets caught all the time. Or the old stand by, "I don't remember saying that!" Some men are so stupid to believe that we would fall for this. He just not into you!!!!!!!

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3. Posted by Maureen on Mon, Jul 13, 2009

Mark...wow...talk about painting all women with one brush. I know very few women who fit the description you give as 90% of all women. In my world, 90% of women want and are attracted to an honest, down-to-earth man who cares about himself and will respect her. A visible means of income is a given; most of us are not interested in supporting a man without an income. There will always be women golddiggers who want to be seen with the Porsche driving, Gold Card flashing man, just as there will always be men who are looking for a woman to support them and take care of them. I know a lot of quality women who are so NOT interested in all the flash and crap you describe as attractive to women. In fact, these intelligent, attractive and successful women are completely turned off by overt flashing and will walk in the opposite direction if they see it coming. The smart women know it to be a sign of insecurity and most of us are so over taking on fixer-uppers. If the women you describe so bitterly are the kind of women you are meeting and attracting, perhaps you need to look at what signals you are emitting and where you are meeting these women. It's too bad that a few bad apples have spoiled the whole bunch for you, but you are way off the mark Mark. And blaming the women for the behaviour of men is just silly. A man who can quietly hold his own, has his head screwed on, who is confident and together is a major turn-on for any woman I know and that will never go out of style. Time for some reflection and personal inventory.

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4. Posted by Pissed Off on Sun, Jul 12, 2009

Only about 10% of men are committing the so called rude dating crimes that most women say they abhor but those men are getting 90% of the women...why?..becuase they are giving women what they want and then when women get it they complain and blame the men. Women you have created the men that are out there scamming you out of your panties and breaking your hearts. We all know ( and i have had many women admit to this) that women in these articles and comments are liars becuase they say they want the one thing but really want the and go after the other. A man who does not play with his flashy things and brag about his sucess or popularity or brains or position or does not display these things in some way will be ignored. Well those 10% of men have learned what women want and they give it to them until they are tired of playing the game then they may settle with a women leaving all the rest broken and scarred becuase of there (the women's) selfish and poor judgement for the rest of us 90% of men to have to put up with in trying to find a relationship. Look around the gang guys, the rich guys, the flashy guys without a penny, the popular drug dealers, the poor but charismatic politically correct, ect all atract the women and the women ignore the bad becuase they lust after there own selfishness that they can see that they can get it what ever they want in that guy..power, position, popularity...so women stop ragging on guys you created the guys in the dating scene and you will always complain. Look around this is all obvious in real life.....or watch sex in the city for an example of how disgusting women have become..........

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5. Posted by Pissed Off on Sun, Jul 12, 2009

Only about 10% of men are committing the so called rude dating crimes that most women say they abhor but those men are getting 90% of the women...why?..becuase they are giving women what they want and then when women get it they complain and blame the men. Women you have created the men that are out there scamming you out of your panties and breaking your hearts. We all know ( and i have had many women admit to this) that women in these articles and comments are liars becuase they say they want the one thing but really want the and go after the other. A man who does not play with his flashy things and brag about his sucess or popularity or brains or position or does not display these things in some way will be ignored. Well those 10% of men have learned what women want and they give it to them until they are tired of playing the game then they may settle with a women leaving all the rest broken and scarred becuase of there (the women's) selfish and poor judgement for the rest of us 90% of men to have to put up with in trying to find a relationship. Look around the gang guys, the rich guys, the flashy guys without a penny, the popular drug dealers, the poor but charismatic politically correct, ect all atract the women and the women ignore the bad becuase they lust after there own selfishness that they can see that they can get it what ever they want in that guy..power, position, popularity...so women stop ragging on guys you created the guys in the dating scene and you will always complain. Look around this is all obvious in real life.....or watch sex in the city for an example of how disgusting women have become..........

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6. Posted by Yvette on Sun, Jul 12, 2009

What a sad world we live in when men are complaining because women like to be treated with respect. And, yes, respect includes turning your damn cell phone off when on a date. Anyone who needs to be told this is a sorry individual. You know, most of us women don't demand or need a lot, including expensive dinners and flowers. Most of us are thrilled with the little gestures and considerations; they go a long way. Problem is, they seem to be in short supply. I have never stopped seeing a man because he didn't have money to spend on me. In fact, I ended a relationship with a very wealthy man who wanted to marry me, but his home was a pig sty and he was disrespectful of my home. I have ended short-term things with men who were rude by way of constantly taking and making calls, who were late, who were self-centred and the list goes on. This doesn't make me demanding; it just means I have self-respect. As for those who are complaining that this is a sexist article, there are just as many articles written from the male perspective. This just doesn't happen to be one of them. What a bunch of whiners. Love doesn't just fall into your lap and take care of itself; it takes respect, devotion and a hell of a lot of maintenance. If you aren't prepared to work a bit, hang up your hat and resign your self to cyber relationships.

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7. Posted by Francine on Sun, Jul 12, 2009

Are women still "allowed" to lie about their age? Then if they're not, a man still shouldn't ask a woman's age. Isn't what's important still on the inside? Has this world gone materialistically mad? I suspect the answer is yes, but I hope there are people out there who are not so much into electronic gadgets, toys, skinny models, and can't communicate.

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8. Posted by Meg on Sat, Jun 27, 2009

Gah it put it there twice sorry my computer goofed.

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9. Posted by Meg on Sat, Jun 27, 2009

Why can't we all just get along? What happened to respect? . What happened to face to face interaction? There are many people who are unconscious & don't understand the difference between love & attachment. Love is unconditional attachment is just brain wires & chemicals a certain way of behavior . These rules go for BOTH sex's. Guys you should feel disrespected too if a woman treats you as second rate, your not, nobody is. Love bigger & move on when somebody doesn't show interest. Why lower your standards? I will never lower my standards of respect & neither should you. If your looking for mr or mrs perfect you will never find it. There are millions of people in the world there's always gonna be somebody that's a better fit. To attract love you have to BE love. Love yourselves respect yourselves & you will attract someone who does the same. Our surroundings mirror our inner environment. If you are an angry person you will attract angry people so clean up your inner garbage! Don't throw it out in the world your only hurting yourself ! Its not what people do to us its how we react to it. Consider everything a lesson & pull wisdom from it otherwise what you just endured was for nothing. Put the work into figuring yourself out don't just sit in ignorance & wonder why your not happy blaming everybody but yourself for your circumstances. If your not happy you better look inside & dig a little deeper than well my ex girl/boyfriend did this or my job sucks. Its YOUR job to find your own happiness wholeness is within yourself. Once you stop looking for it outside you will find some inner peace. Surrender your vulcan death grip on life just get on the air mattress of peace & relax! Who wants to be so stressed?! We have responsibilities but you can choose to make them hard or easy its up to you......

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10. Posted by Meg on Sat, Jun 27, 2009

Why can't we all just get along? What happened to respect? . What happened to face to face interaction? There are many people who are unconscious & don't understand the difference between love & attachment. Love is unconditional attachment is just brain wires & chemicals a certain way of behavior . These rules go for BOTH sex's. Guys you should feel disrespected too if a woman treats you as second rate, your not, nobody is. Love bigger & move on when somebody doesn't show interest. Why lower your standards? I will never lower my standards of respect & neither should you. If your looking for mr or mrs perfect you will never find it. There are millions of people in the world there's always gonna be somebody that's a better fit. To attract love you have to BE love. Love yourselves respect yourselves & you will attract someone who does the same. Our surroundings mirror our inner environment. If you are an angry person you will attract angry people so clean up your inner garbage! Don't throw it out in the world your only hurting yourself ! Its not what people do to us its how we react to it. Consider everything a lesson & pull wisdom from it otherwise what you just endured was for nothing. Put the work into figuring yourself out don't just sit in ignorance & wonder why your not happy blaming everybody but yourself for your circumstances. If your not happy you better look inside & dig a little deeper than well my ex girl/boyfriend did this or my job sucks. Its YOUR job to find your own happiness wholeness is within yourself. Once you stop looking for it outside you will find some inner peace. Surrender your vulcan death grip on life just get on the air mattress of peace & relax! Who wants to be so stressed?! We have responsibilities but you can choose to make them hard or easy its up to you......

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