Dear Josey,
I’m really into this guy and we’ve been friends for almost a year. But in the last while, I feel like he’s been avoiding me. When I talk to him, he never looks at me. When I need his help, he just says he doesn’t understand. I feel like he’s afraid of me. Whenever I sit somewhere, he sits somewhere else. I figure he found out that I like him, and got scared. But now I just want to be friends again. How should I deal?
Friendly Advice?
Dear Friendly,
Sounds like you might be right. If you can get him to look at you over coffee at the same table for at least a few minutes, I’d talk to him about it. Tell him you feel like he’s been avoiding you lately and you were just wondering why. If you’re lucky, he’ll admit the truth, but if he’s like most guys, he won’t be able to tell you and then you’ll have to say it for him. Tell him you’ve really enjoyed your friendship and there was a part of you that thought it could be more, but that you understand if it can’t. Tell him it’s more important that you remain friends. Then you’ll have to put up with his awkwardness around you for the next while until you can prove to him sufficiently that you really have no other intention than to be friends. This requires that you really do have no other intention than to be friends and aren’t thinking in the back of your mind somewhere that “I’ll be such a good friend to him that he will eventually want to go out with me.’’ If you honestly believe you can do that, great. Now go talk to him.



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