You’re a beautiful, intelligent single lady who’s been burned one too many times by men. It’s happened so often you’re slowly turning jaded to the idea that there’s a guy out there for you. Don’t let bitterness take hold of you or you’ll wind up sabotaging your own happiness. Divine.ca has tips to help you keep a sunny disposition when it comes to love.
Be okay with being alone
Give yourself, and your romantic heart, a breather after a break-up. A key question to ask yourself is "Have I completely laid my past relationship to rest?". If the answer is “no”, allow time for some deep introspection before embarking on your next romantic pursuit.
Evaluate past relationships
Go over the qualities you liked and didn’t like about your exes. If you begin to notice there are similar traits in the men you’ve dated, consider avoiding men who demonstrate the qualities that are to your disliking and give the guys whose qualities are endearing to you a second glance.
Focus on your individuality
Write down all the wonderful things about yourself. Read these positive attributes aloud to yourself. Making a list of your unique and positive traits will highlight and acknowledge your uniqueness to the person that counts the most—you!
Make passion your main attraction
Go out there and get excited about something. It could be as minor as singing at a karaoke bar with your friends to something on a larger scale such as working on the novel you’ve always wanted to write. The point is to figure out what you enjoy doing and do more of it so you keep you from stewing over negative feelings. The psychological and health benefits are enormous which include viewing yourself in a positive light.
Project a positive attitude
You don’t always have to put on a happy façade but if you’re walking around most of the day with a negative attitude, your outlook may need a tune-up. Walk into a room with confidence and with your head held high. Look a person in the eyes when you’re talking to them. Make a concerted effort to smile and laugh more. Lightening up by appearing confident as well as genuinely smiling and laughing are fail-proof ways of improving your mood because while it’s great to have others perceive you as a happy go-luck gal, the most important thing is that you actually feel this about yourself.
Stop the male-bashing
Turn to the close girlfriends in your life who are with loving guys for guidance. When you hang out with couples who you admire, observe and take notice of how well these men treat their partner. You may even want to spend time with your brother, a father, a male cousin or friend who you adore to change your opinion that “all men are (insert negative stereotype here)”. By getting to know the positive traits of men in your life who you like, you’ll perhaps come to slowly recognize that there are still a few good men out there.
Be okay with being alone
Give yourself, and your romantic heart, a breather after a break-up. A key question to ask yourself is "Have I completely laid my past relationship to rest?". If the answer is “no”, allow time for some deep introspection before embarking on your next romantic pursuit.
Evaluate past relationships
Go over the qualities you liked and didn’t like about your exes. If you begin to notice there are similar traits in the men you’ve dated, consider avoiding men who demonstrate the qualities that are to your disliking and give the guys whose qualities are endearing to you a second glance.
Focus on your individuality
Write down all the wonderful things about yourself. Read these positive attributes aloud to yourself. Making a list of your unique and positive traits will highlight and acknowledge your uniqueness to the person that counts the most—you!
Make passion your main attraction
Go out there and get excited about something. It could be as minor as singing at a karaoke bar with your friends to something on a larger scale such as working on the novel you’ve always wanted to write. The point is to figure out what you enjoy doing and do more of it so you keep you from stewing over negative feelings. The psychological and health benefits are enormous which include viewing yourself in a positive light.
Project a positive attitude
You don’t always have to put on a happy façade but if you’re walking around most of the day with a negative attitude, your outlook may need a tune-up. Walk into a room with confidence and with your head held high. Look a person in the eyes when you’re talking to them. Make a concerted effort to smile and laugh more. Lightening up by appearing confident as well as genuinely smiling and laughing are fail-proof ways of improving your mood because while it’s great to have others perceive you as a happy go-luck gal, the most important thing is that you actually feel this about yourself.
Stop the male-bashing
Turn to the close girlfriends in your life who are with loving guys for guidance. When you hang out with couples who you admire, observe and take notice of how well these men treat their partner. You may even want to spend time with your brother, a father, a male cousin or friend who you adore to change your opinion that “all men are (insert negative stereotype here)”. By getting to know the positive traits of men in your life who you like, you’ll perhaps come to slowly recognize that there are still a few good men out there.
