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Even when part of a couple, it may sometimes be hard to quash the flirty behaviour one used to their advantage while single. If your man has a habit of being overly-popular with the ladies, we’ve got seven tips on helping you confront him and deal with it
Recognize if he’s actually a flirt. Flirting is in the eye of the beholder; how would you define it? If your man merely glances in a woman’s direction, don’t bother making a big deal. He’s a guy, after all; plus, we’re sure you’ve glanced at your fair share of men, too! Flirting actually involves talking and maybe touching another woman in a certain manner, so be sure you know what you’re accusing your guy of before you say anything.
See if he’s overstepping any lines. If your man is the flirty type and enjoys chatting with other women, establish whether his behaviour is innocent or not. If he’s deliberately flirting with other women in front of you or is actually showing romantic or sexual interest in his conversations or mannerisms, then you have a right to be upset.
Figure out if it truly bothers you. Some women may be cool with a flirty boyfriend, since all it may imply is that he’s a very sociable person. For some—no matter if the flirting is innocent or not—it may just bring out underlying jealousy and insecurities.
Tell him how you feel. If the flirting is innocent on his part, he may not even realize he’s doing anything wrong or upsetting you. But if his behaviour makes you uncomfortable, it’s important that you let him know.
Find out why he’s flirting. If his flirting isn’t above suspicion, ask yourself this: are there any problems in your relationship that may hint at why your guy is flirting with other women? He may not be getting something from you—attention, compassion, love—that he is subtly seeking elsewhere. Talk it out.
Establish guidelines. Once you’ve discussed your issues with his flirting, decide what happens next: does he have stop lest he lose you for good? Or do you let him continue with a few ground rules (no touching, no flirting in your presence, etc.), knowing that he doesn’t mean any harm? You need to make a decision that works best for the two of you as a couple; don’t say you’re cool with his talking to other women if you actually are not.
Try your hand at it. If you both decide the flirting is nothing but harmless fun, why not join your guy in his game? Go to a party, go your separate ways, and innocently flirt with different people following any above-mentioned guidelines that you may have established. (Be sure, however, to keep things flirty but platonic; you don’t want to lead anyone on and make them think you’re going home with them!) Exchange faraway smiles with your guy throughout and, by night’s end, meet up and head out. This could leave you both giddy with excitement, which may actually be good for your relationship.
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