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  • Do you think I'm in the wrong or am I right?

    Singles & Dating - 4 hours ago

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    Okay so my boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years. We just got a house together and everything has been going good for the most part. Now he is 27 and ready for a family and I'm 21 and not so sure I want kids. It really hasn't been a problem because for some reason he thinks I might change my mind. Well he had done overseas about 6yrs. for the military and ended up sleeping with some girl and she had got pregnant. Come to find out she was married she told him that it was either his kid or her husbands. Well when it was born she never got a dna test but she told him that it was her husbands. Now five years later she found him on facebook and told him that she thinks the kid is his but yet she still doesn't want him to be apart of the kids life. She also told him that is not why contacted him. Well if she didn't want to talk about that then why does she keep calling. I said something to him about it and he said well even if I can't see her I still want to make sure she is okay. How would you feel about this?? Honestly I don't like that he is talking to her. Plus he doesn't even know if that kid is his for sure and she want let him find out. Do you think it's wrong of me for not wanting him to talk to her. I guess I wouldn't care so much if she would let him get a dna test but since she has already said that she wont and that the kid is being raised by her husband and that is all the kid knows and she wants to leave it that way.
  • GIRLS, should I text her first?

    Friends - 5 hours ago

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    Me and this friend of mine tried dating recently. We used to text all day, good morning to good night. And If I didnt text her, she would text me first. But we decided just to stay friends. And now shes not texting me as much. Actually way less. Her messages are getting shorter, to the point. And if I dont text her, I dont hear from her. Should I text her "Happy Thanksgiving" first, or wait for her to text me? If she even does. Im puttin the effort in, but she doesnt seem to want to anymore. Did you miss the part where I said we tried to date? She didnt want to, she said lets be friends!
  • MEN ONLY help the fat chick ch 5?

    Singles & Dating - 6 hours ago

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    for health reasons in 5'4' 200 lbs how much do i need to loose
  • Relationship question for girls...?

    Singles & Dating - 6 hours ago

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    Alright girls...Here's my problem. I've had this crush for a long time. But I didn't think I had any chance with her whatsoever, so I never let my feelings show. A month ago, she told me she might like me. So we hung out a few times and we kissed a bit. Now, there's this guy from college that she used to date last year. He has come home a couple of times and they hung out both times. And now it kinda seems like she might not like me but I could just be being paranoid. Like I asked her to hang out friday and she just said "Yeah I'm kinda busy." Btw, the guy from college has abs and what not...and I don't really. I don't think she's that shallow, but I don't really know what girls want in a guy. I'm a sweet guy and I've not really had a serious relationship before, so I'm kinda new at this :P What do I do? Do I ask her about it? Do I just keep trying to hang with her? Please help.
  • If a woman is 20 and has a kid would she be considered a MILF ?

    Marriage & Divorce - 7 hours ago

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  • Honestly: Would you say I'm a sad 16 year old with no life?

    Friends - 7 hours ago

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    I rarely go out to parties or even places like cinemas and retaurants with my friends because when I was younger my mum never let me so I'm used to it and don't have friends close enough to go with. When I do make plans, it gets cancelled for one reason or the other by either me or the friend and I'm sick of this. The only places I go to is school, church and the theatre where I work and I'm taking an acting course with some of my friends. Do you think I'm sad for this? Please be honest
  • Marriage Help Books. Do They Work?

    Marriage & Divorce - 7 hours ago

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    My husband and I are going through a real hard time at the moment. Our problems are I am sure not out of the ordinary, however I am really starting to worry about our future. We have lost a lot of our closeness, he doesn't listen to me and we do not deal with problems together like we used to. Our relationship was really strong and I hate to think that if our marriage problems get worse we may end up another divorce statistic. A friend has suggest I read a marriage help book and see if I get any ideas from it. Has anyone used marriage help books with any success, and what other help could I look at? I don't want to go down the route of counseling yet if I can help it. Thanks for listening.
  • who do u think is the right person to love and whats the real love for your opinion?

    Singles & Dating - 7 hours ago

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    what do u really think
  • What should I do when...?

    Singles & Dating - 7 hours ago

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    A year ago my best friend (guy) asked me out. Knowing that I loved him as a person and that he wouldn't be my friend if I turned him down I said yes. A couple days later I realized it scared me and I couldn't eat or sleep or anything so I told him I really felt more like friends and I wanted to be best friends like we were. He got really mad at me and stopped talking to me. A couple months later he sent me a text telling me how sorry he was and that he was getting Baptized and wanted to invite me. So I went to his baptism and a week later he turned away from God. I haven't talked to him since but I have a feeling that he will contact me soon. If this happens should I forgive him again, I want to do the Christian thing but I get a knot in my stomach every time I see or think of him, I'm not sure if it's love or fear. I'm messed up all over. I used to not believe in teens falling in love and I don't think I could love him especially when the last thing he said to me was "Leave me the f*** alone" but I can't stop thinking about him (and this is a year later...) Thank you so much for your answers, especially yours Ashlee: I've been thinking about it but not sure if I should. My close friends who were there to help me through the whole thing are tired of me not getting over him.
  • He has a crush on me?gosh..i still keep thinking about him..im curious?!?

    Singles & Dating - 7 hours ago

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    If a guy looks at u..lets say the both of u r in a crowded area with ppl talking n all..and suddenly u look up and u catch him lookin..our eyes meet,there's some tension..n then i look away first. Then,i walk away n stand somewhere behind him. And,then he turns back..to look again!!! I can see him looking..But,this time i dont look back.. owh,we know each other..we've spoken before(when he looks at me even when he's talking..somehow it feels like there's just like some kind of tension there..and when he sees me,he says hi..the last he saw me..we crossed paths(we were both walking)..he said hi *my name* in such a flirty way(it just made my heart melt!:P)..and continued smiling after he said hi.. then,the other day.we were sitting for an exam,,he came into the xm hall..i was already seated..he walked past me..his head down the minute he passed beside me,but i noticed he had a slight grin on his face..like as if there was a secret smile there..lol. The thing is,he has a girlfriend..ive never asked him in person if she's really his gf..but,i hear ppl talk about them and that they r together..he's always with her..he has said hi/hello(likes to say my name:P) to me several times,usually only when she's not around him..when he's with her, he walks past me and says nothing.. Owh,+ i have his email add..do u think i should add him in msn??

US study finds that multitaskers often bad at it, unable to process lots of information

By Randolph E. Schmid, THE ASSOCIATED PRESS
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WASHINGTON - The people who multitask the most are the ones who are worst at it.

That is the surprising conclusion of researchers at Stanford University, who found multitaskers are more easily distracted and less able to ignore irrelevant information than people who do less multitasking.

"The huge finding is, the more media people use the worse they are at using any media. We were totally shocked," Clifford Nass, a professor at Stanford's communications department, said in a telephone interview.

The researchers studied 262 college undergraduates, dividing them into high and low multitasking groups and comparing such things as memory, ability to switch from one task to another and being able to focus on a task. Their findings are reported in Tuesday's edition of Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences.

When it came to such essential abilities, people who did a lot of multitasking didn't score as well as others, Nass said.

Still to be answered is why the folks who are worst at multitasking are the ones doing it the most.

It's sort of a chicken-or-egg question.

"Is multitasking causing them to be lousy at multitasking, or is their lousiness at multitasking causing them to be multitaskers?" Nass wondered. "Is it born or learned?"

In a society that seems to encourage more and more multitasking, the findings have social implications, Nass observed. Multitasking is already blamed for car crashes as several states restrict the use of cellphones while driving. Lawyers or advertisers can try to use irrelevant information to distract and refocus people to influence their decisions.

In the study, the researchers first had to figure out who are the heavy and light multitaskers. They gave the students a form listing a variety of media such as print, television, computer-based video, music, computer games, telephone voice or text, and so forth.

The students were asked, for each form of media, which other forms they used at the same time always, often, sometimes or never.

The result ranged from an average of about 1.5 media items at the low end to more than four among heavy multitaskers.

Then they tested the abilities of students in the various groups.

For example, ability to ignore irrelevant information was tested by showing them a group of red and blue rectangles, blanking them out, and then showing them again and asking if any of the red ones had moved.

The test required ignoring the blue rectangles. The researchers thought people who do a lot of multitasking would be better at it.

"But they're not. They're worse. They're much worse," said Nass. The high media multitaskers couldn't ignore the blue rectangles. "They couldn't ignore stuff that doesn't matter. They love stuff that doesn't matter," he said.

Perhaps the multitaskers can take in the information and organize it better? Nope.

"They are worse at that, too," Nass said.

"So then we thought, OK, maybe they have bigger memories. They don't. They were equal" with the low multitaskers, he added.

Finally, they tested ability to switch from one task to another by classifying a letter as a vowel or consonant, or a number as even or odd. The high multitaskers took longer to make the switch from one task to the other.

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  • 1. Posted by Someone on Tue, Aug 25, 2009

    It's hard to say for sure that multitasking is a good or bad thing. It would, however, be fascinating to watch multitaskers to read a news article while working out a math equation at the same time. Maybe some can do it, but probably because their brains are faster than normal people (in this case, time matters), not necessary they are processing different information at the same time (second).

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  • 2. Posted by Someone on Tue, Aug 25, 2009

    It's hard to say for sure that multitasking is a good or bad thing. It would, however, be fascinating to watch multitaskers to read a news article and work out a math equation at the same time. Maybe some can do it, but probably because their brain is faster than normal people (in this case, time matters), not necessary they are processing different information at the same time (second).

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  • 3. Posted by Leila Margeritae on Tue, Aug 25, 2009

    First thing I would write here is the exact abstract of the article published. Chronic media multitasking is quickly becoming ubiquitous, although processing multiple incoming streams of information is considered a challenge for human cognition. A series of experiments addressed whether there are systematic differences in information processing styles between chronically heavy and light media multitaskers. A trait media multitasking index was developed to identify groups of heavy and light media multitaskers. These two groups were then compared along established cognitive control dimensions. Results showed that heavy media multitaskers are more susceptible to interference from irrelevant environmental stimuli and from irrelevant representations in memory. This led to the surprising result that heavy media multitaskers performed worse on a test of task-switching ability, likely due to reduced ability to filter out interference from the irrelevant task set. These results demonstrate that media multitasking, a rapidly growing societal trend, is associated with a distinct approach to fundamental information processing. And to all the posts I would say that this study does not meant for any single mom, or a kid who is 24hrs on Nintendo or driving a car while on cell phone or flying a plane while listening what is around, but the ability of brain to see and decide the information coming towards it and classify and execute. The first statement of the abstract says that "multitasking is a challenge to the human brain". And this is true, because you can write with your right hand 6 in the air while making 9 with your foot. There is information coming but brain takes in quantas and execute the task. There is nothing called true multitasking. Moreover, this study only compared heavy and light multitaskers not the classification of absolute multitasking.

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  • 4. Posted by Joe Z on Tue, Aug 25, 2009

    Isn't the human brain marvelous it can focus on individual particles and most importantly it can also hold together and see the whole picture of many particles . I think there are people who are good at one and also there are people who are good at the other. Leaders tend to be good at focusing on the whole and team members must be able to multi-task, to complete a variety of tasks. All require different skills, we need all people with all kinds of skills. Even people who do not spell well can have something to say and we cannot live without the literary kinds of people like the writers. Too much focus on media/computer use is only one-sided life style, it is not realistic way of living. Nowdays, university students are missing out on very rich and enjoyable learning experiences being glued to the computers. Thanks for the article it raises questions and attention to a serious issues in today's society, it can have consequences that are irreversable and crippling.

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  • 5. Posted by Jen on Tue, Aug 25, 2009

    Oh my. Then by this study I must suck at mutlitasking. Not everyone sucks at this. The ability to do more than one task at a time. Hello! These individuals who did this study must not either have children or can only focus on one thing at a time. Most parents multitask on a daily basis and at work. For those who can't multitask - never get a job in the Federal government- they'd never last

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  • 6. Posted by Zed on Tue, Aug 25, 2009

    To keep one's job these day one has no choice but to multi-task.

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  • 7. Posted by Juniper V. on Tue, Aug 25, 2009

    Hello, I don't mean to pick on Patricia C as an individual but as an example of a person who claims to be an effective multi-tasker. Studies have shown that incompetent people often over-estimate their own competencies, anf competent people have a more accurate perception of their strengths and weaknesses. Patricia does not demonstrate competence in the use of the English language. This is fine, because many successful peopl don't speak or write well. The are seven errors in the first sentence, in grammar, sentence structure, and spelling, This is the sentence about the ability to spot errors in thr work of others, Clearly this individual was multi-tasking poorly or just taking poorly when writing to an international forum. The second sentence has two grammar errors one word used incorrectly (showly lack of comprehension or the use of a non-standard dialect, and one slang expression that again, on an international forum, would be misleading to the reader. I hope this individual has the opportunity to improve their English before entering high school or the work force. Myself, in jr high I listened to classical music while doing my homework. I can't say my grades were any better for doing so. Perhaps they would have been better if I hadn't, but the pleasure of listening to music helped me cope with the drudgery of homework. I run into challenges if i try to live with someone who must have background noise to "entertain" the other parts of their brain. I suspect that they areusing these things ti calm anxiety or lift depression caused by the loss or traditional family and friendships once known in every part of the world, in which people were always busy doing something, but not so busy they did have time to stop for visitor dropping in unannounced, and having coffee or a glass of wine, soju, or palinka, which might lead to the friend staying to supper and singing around the table after dinner. Now-fast food and poor communication skills.

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  • 8. Posted by Shannon.duhamel on Tue, Aug 25, 2009

    off topic, but: I'm a writer and a poet, and I have a University degree in English literature. Don't tell me that spelling and grammar are irrelevant. If people spelled and wrote however they felt like doing it in books and newspapers and magazines, or even in advertising on billboards everything would be a horrible mess and no one would understand anything that was being communicated properly, of course. The only real point you're making is how illiterate you are, and how illiteracy is so prevalent today in general. (Or in actuality, semi literate would be a more accurate term, since almost everyone in our society CAN read, but they just choose not to.)

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  • 9. Posted by Surc6 on Tue, Aug 25, 2009

    Quoting "The human brain is incapable of true multitasking i.e. paying attention to more than one thought stream at the same time. It can only process discrete bits of each task in series. " from a previous article. How is that possible! I can listen and distinguish everything important going on around me while controlling an aircraft. If I could not do this, I would have big smoking holes at the end of the runway. I am a true multi-tasker, as any other air traffic controller must be. Would you want someone controlling the 747 your flying in if they couldn't distinguish and pass you ALL of the information versus bits and pieces of it?

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  • 10. Posted by J. C on Tue, Aug 25, 2009

    I would like to point ot the fact that Shannon.duhamel immediatly noticed the spelling and grammar errors in the article. To the articles point, the spelling and grammar is a minor detail. Shannon.duhamel proved the article right, she couldn't ignore stuff that doesn't matter!

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